It's a birthday party one

[holachicatita]

I've today received a birthday invite over WhatsApp for my 10 year old daughter. I know the Mum of the birthday girl well enough to stop for a chat but not good friends. I've found out from a mutual friend that this party has been arranged weeks ago with a WhatsApp group and everything. One of the girls dropped out as they have something else on and that's when I got the message inviting my DD! AIBU to tell her to stick it as my daughter is clearly an afterthought? DD isn't fussed about going, she likes the girl well enough but not that friendly at school!

Grownup. Your DD has an invitation, it’s either a yes or a no!

People have set numbers - that’s life.

Go and celebrate.

YABU. If your daughter would enjoy it, let her go and enjoy it. You said yourself they’re not that friendly so you can’t get offended she wasn’t invited initially.

If your daughter isn’t that bothered then decline, but do so politely.

If she wants to go say yes of sge doesnt say no. Easy

People aren't made of money and can have an infinite amount of children at a party these days. If your daughter wants to go then say yes, if not say no. Don't give it a second thought.

Why choose to be offended?

you sound exhausting

Just let her go.
What an odd thing to be offended by.

I personally would just decline. Nicely.

I saw this last year on our parent whatsapp. Party arranged, paper invites sent and obv some kids cannot make it. Invitation is then posted on the group inviting list B and only a few accepted, at short notice.

I would decline too.

It takes effort to go to a party not to mention the expense.

Why take your kid with a few days notice when they clearly weren't really wanted?

YABU. Invites are limited, you said yourself they aren't close. Why limit her social life because you're choosing to be offended?!

I think at the age of 10 parties are small numbers and not all class parties. I think you're over thinking it and taking offence too easily. Ask your daughter it she would like to go but don't share your thoughts that she's an after thought or a back up as that's not fair.
I'll be honest I have had similar situations both as the party organiser who had to deal with a last minute drop out and also on the receiving end of an invite which was clearly the result of a last minute drop out. I did not take offence and was just glad to let another child join the fun.

Of course YABU.
It must be exhausting to go through life being offended, on behalf of other people, at being invited to go to something nice.

oh do stop being ridiculous- some parties have limited numbers. The fact your daughter doesn’t care about going indicates why she probably wasn’t in the first group, ie. The kids aren’t that close.

FGS OP

Hope your child has not heard you talk this way. Yabu.

Your daughter might meet great new friends at the party!