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AIBU to be so wound up by DP this morning

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fallgirlyes · 03/11/2023 07:48

So we had just woken up, I get DD ready in our bedroom which is right next to her room. DP says 'don't forget her socks' and I said that I always put them on when she's dressed and hair done so it doesn't matter if I bring them in now or not. DP starts going on at me how it's easier just to get them now as I'll have to back in her room to put them on and it's waste of time having to go 'next door' to get the socks again. He was just going on and I said 'it doesn't matter it's a pair of socks' and he wouldn't stop so I just said 'shut up' and he said 'don't tell me to shut up you idiot' and went to brush his teeth. He walked back into the bedroom and said 'now you know what it's like when you go on at me' and I said 'you can't compare, I go on at you about your finances'. He is so deep in debt to the point it got me in debt as when I was pregnant and not maternity leave, he decided to start his own business and didn't bring in any money for nearly a year. He's so passive aggressive and does this to so many people, he left a job because him and his boss didn't get a long because of this. I know it's petty but it's just annoyed me and it annoys me often that he just goes on about pointless stuff. AIBU that this has annoyed me? We had literally just woken up.. just need a rant really.

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HIC2020 · 03/11/2023 09:22

That would really annoy me and sounds like it's a bit of tit for tat on his part. Almost like he is looking for something to nag you about because he is (quite rightly imho) having his own problems pointed out to him. Very petty behaviour from him, the thing that really gripes me is him calling you an idiot. If my husband said that to me I'd flip my lid!

fallgirlyes · 03/11/2023 09:38

@HIC2020 I do feel bad when I have to keep having the 'finance' talk with him, but it's so terrible. He has no clue when it comes to money and we had to borrow £900 off my parents this month to cover bills because DPs new job pays him weekly and a lot less than his previous job.. so because he spends his weekly pay and earns less.. it leaves us short and I have to keep telling him it's not sustainable, we can't do this :(

I also said nothing when he called me an idiot.. it just upset me tbh..

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fallgirlyes · 03/11/2023 09:41

@HIC2020 I have to say I work full time too, I didn't want it to sound like he's the only one making money!

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ginasevern · 03/11/2023 12:22

He sounds emotionally abusive and a dickhead. You shouldn't have to put up with any of this. It can't be doing your DD any good either. No advice (except for the obvious).

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