to expect dh to pick up a phone without swearing?

[mehdismummy]

been stuck in all day because of weather. I have really bad toothache and called the doctors to get some painkillers. Phoned dh to ask him to pick them up on his way back from work (its on his way) and got told to fuck off. I am expected to go and get things for him but he never does anything for for me. I am so sick of feeling like this.

What do you mean you got a final warning?

This man is a bully and I have no idea about your situation, just what you have said on this thread but this is not on.

There must be someone who can help you!!

well apparently i was lucky to get a warning it could have been the sack. I still think its really unfair and it is a little bit upsetting that i was treated like a criminal but what can i do? I am gonna spend a couple of days with urbandyrad tomorrow so looking forward to that. And my appointment with camden safety net is not far off.

MM - you are a lovely lady with a beautiful little boy and you do NOT deserve to be treated with such disrespect.
Is there any mum and toddler groups locally you can go to, to make some friends? Try your local Surestart.
It doesn't sound as if your dh will change . But you do have the strength within you to move on. Good luck!

MM - Ask yourself where you want to be in five years. That is the question I asked myself before I got divorced - I knew that I could not spend the next five years (stretch that out to fifty if you like!) with an utter shithead so I packed up myself and four children and left. I told him I was going on the Thursday morning and by Friday afternoon was on a plane . Like most bullies, he didnt really believe I would have the balls to actually do it. He is now doing a very sad Peter Stringfellow impression - complete with ratty long hair and Euro-tan, last time I saw him - and I have remarried a brilliant Frenchman.

Take your courage in your hands and go for it sweetheart. You have one life, don't spend it hating him.

And how are you doing, TDWP?

sorry must be thick what is tdwp?

The devil wears primark!

You are as brave as you act MM, and always much braver than you think.

MM - I think there has been some great advice here from other mumsnetters who have been there.

Would it be worth collecting your thoughts and examples of what he has done and said over the last few years and having another conversation wtih your sister? I know you have said she made it clear that she would not welcome you leaving him - but maybe she genuinely does not understand what this is doing to you. AND, more to the point, if she has some misplaced view that it is better for your son to have a father figure, then it would be worth pointing out to her that by doing this he would learn that this is the norm - he really would MMummy - if you accept the situation, your gorgeous son will believe that it is ok to treat women like this. And IT ISN'T!

If she still won't support you once she knows the full picture - which I would find very hard to understand, then you can do this by yourself. For yourself and more importantly for your son.

Are you ok, Mehdis mummy?

hi i'm ok i'm staying with Urban. still got that meeting with SafetyNet so will go from there. i do understand what everyone's saying but i just want to get everything in place before i go. i don't want ds in a hostel.

That was me posting for mehdismummy btw, she was dictating. (can't get the hang on my Mac...)

That was me posting for mehdismummy btw, she was dictating. (can't get the hang of my Mac...)

So good i said it twice.

god i go to settle ds and she already changed to her name!!-mehsismummy

Hope you have a good break mm - bless you ud!
Really hope you find the courage to leave - you were so almost there a couple of weeks ago. Wishing that you find the strength I know is inside you

2 words - sex ban

have not had it for two years anyway