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How did you start a relationship at work with partner

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AmyJahabee · 02/11/2023 19:22

I have been doing OLD and I’m sick of it, I work in a really nice place nice people just the type I would like to be with. It make dominant place so you would think I can find someone. Within my small internal department I don’t fancy anyone but on the wider department I like some of them but we communicate on teams. Please share how did you meet your other half at work

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All2Well · 02/11/2023 19:27

In my case, (ex now and the fall out at work was a nightmare, only resolved when we both left work), we worked closely on a project together and then one night the whole team went out for a drink at the pub to celebrate the successful end of the project. We couldn't stop staring at each other, I realised I only wanted to be right next to him for the rest of the night so went and sat with him, we chatted all night both slightly tipsy and that was that, inseparable for a while.

We kept it a secret for ages (nearly a year) so as not to upset the team dynamic. People thought we were just really good friends!

My parents met at work too. They got together through outside of work social events.

reallydontlikeit · 02/11/2023 19:34

Funny @All2Well I met my husband at work, we've been married more than 25 years but got together on a drunken night out to celebrate end of a big project.

Cookerhood · 02/11/2023 19:36

We met at work nearly 40 years ago. We were young graduates & there was a great social life in the department & we became good friends, then one thing led to another.

LittleLlama · 02/11/2023 19:36

We worked in the same open plan office area. The team was quite social (Friday drinks, etc) but we actually got together at a Christmas Party…. Two months later I moved jobs - but we are still married!

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/11/2023 19:38

No longer with him but work night out.

I didn't particularly care about the job though. I wouldn't now. I mean, I'm married but even if I wasn't. Because I don't shit where I eat. Very bad idea to date at work if you love and care about your job.

Anotherloadofwashing · 02/11/2023 19:40

I worked on the same team as my now husband and we used to have quite a lot of work nights out. We got on well and eventually he asked me out on a date.

Spermscarecrow · 02/11/2023 19:43

Been working together for about a year and suddenly something just clicked . Went on a work party and never looked back but didn't continue to work together so it wouldn't effect our relationship. been together 36 years.

All2Well · 02/11/2023 19:45

Looks like you need to arrange a trip to the pub, a work night out or Christmas party @AmyJahabee !

Cupcakekiller · 02/11/2023 19:50

I've been out with a few work colleagues - Facebook and nights out are usually how they start.

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/11/2023 19:53

All2Well · 02/11/2023 19:45

Looks like you need to arrange a trip to the pub, a work night out or Christmas party @AmyJahabee !

Tis the season.

Lundin · 02/11/2023 19:59

Got drunk and slept together on a night out. Here we are 15 years later. If i could turn back the hands of time...

LoobyDop · 02/11/2023 20:08

We eventually came up with an excuse to go for a drink after work and had a scary conversation.

Bear in mind, I think you only get one shot per company at dating a colleague. Of course sometimes it doesn’t work out for whatever reason, but if you then move on to someone else (unless a few years have passed) it starts to look a bit unprofessional.

5foot5 · 02/11/2023 20:57

Cookerhood · 02/11/2023 19:36

We met at work nearly 40 years ago. We were young graduates & there was a great social life in the department & we became good friends, then one thing led to another.

This is very, very like how DH and I got together. Our company took on several new graduates every year. DH was 5 years older than me and actually my team leader! We lived round the corner from each other so often bumped into each other out of work too (accidentally on purpose).

Moversnotshakers · 02/11/2023 21:11

Another work night out get together story here too.. but at the age of 40. 17 yrs later. Married and 9 grandkids later- very happy but no longer working together.

alongcameboo · 02/11/2023 21:13

I fancied X for ages but he was with someone else so i never spoke to him (too embarrassed as i knew i'd go bright red if i ever spoke to him!). He broke off his relationship with his gf about a year later.

As a department, we would all go out on a Fri night to local pub/wine bar. One particular fri eve, after I'd found out he was single, I told a colleague that I really liked X.

Colleague, unbeknowst to me, went upto X at the bar (i was sat at a table) and said 'mate, did you know that Y fancies you?!' When I realised what colleague had said I could have DIED of embarrassment! X came over, asked if I'd like a drink and we hit it off immediately. Together 27 years, married for 23. Still fancy him to bits 😆

Ihaterhymingrabbit · 02/11/2023 21:13

On a work night out (together 13 years).

Seems like a night out is a common theme OP 🤣

JamSandle · 02/11/2023 21:14

Traditionally most people meet at work. :)

BeyondMyWits · 02/11/2023 21:19

I worked in IT support, he had a computer issue, I fixed it. We flirted and ended up married a year later ... 24 years ago

donkey86 · 02/11/2023 21:20

Chatting at work we discovered we both liked the band The National and agreed to go to a gig of theirs together. When we were there my now DH had a bit of a funny turn (a combination of slightly too much to drink and a very hot, crowded venue) and had to be escorted out by St John ambulance. I stayed with him and when he was feeling better he apologised profusely for making me miss most of the set. I told him it was ok because he meant more to me than the band did. Then he invited
me back to his and that was that, we were together!

We managed to keep it a secret at work for about four months, but it was a small office and word soon got out once one person knew. Ah, good times :D

BigFatLiar · 02/11/2023 21:30

I knew him from work but the main thing was he was a friend of my brothers. I wasn't dating and was a bit of a recluse as I was constantly being bullied.

Mum suggested I go with my brother when they were all off to a day out. My now OH took it on himself to make sure I wasn't bored/abandoned (it was a steam engine rally). It was a nice day out followed by curry. I kept going with them, no romance, they simply accepted me as one of the group. Only issue was my brother didn't want me to go to their late night as he said it was a bit rude with movies. I did eventually go around to see what they were up to...eating fish suppers and watching old sci-fi/horror movies, so I started staying for the chips and movies.

He was going on his own to an exhibition at a museum it also had some things I wanted to look at so I went with him. We started going to things together and one of the other lads asked if we were dating, it hadn't actually occurred to us so we started dating properly.

Well over 30 years together, we still have lots in common but also our own interests. Never regretted getting together with him.

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