I’m 38. I met DP when I was 35. We talked a LOT about what we wanted in the future and I was VERY clear I wanted a family and that I didn’t even want to begin dating someone who didn’t also have that dream for the future. He said being a dad was something he’d always wanted (he’s 4 years older) and after we moved in after a year, we planned to ttc a couple of years after that.
At the start of this year we talked again about it and said it we would think about trying next year. I was fine with that, I had some career stuff I wanted to sort first and I was happy with the timeline. We were very happy living together and in summer this year I actually came home one afternoon and DP said he’d been thinking about how amazing it would be if I suddenly said I was pregnant. All gravy I thought… looking forward to the future together.
I found out I was 7 weeks pregnant last month - total accident as we were using contraception. DP has said he actually isn’t sure he wants to be a dad, it probably isn’t for him after all and he thinks I should terminate. I am beyond devastated and angry… presumably he would have strung me along all this time and told me next year when I was another year older that actually he had been lying about wanting a family. I never wanted a baby alone and that’s why I was so clear years ago when we started dating that I wanted someone on the same page as me. But I also don’t want to terminate. I really loved this man. He’s not come round to the idea like a friend said he would, if anything in the last month he’s become very distant and we barely even talk. I feel absolutely horrendous. I know nobody can make this decision for me but I’m really needing some support to come to terms with all this. I feel totally betrayed.