16yo to have total control of guest list

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I want to throw a small party for my DDs birthday. Small function room. I will provide music/DJ, food etc. But AIBU for leaving the guest list completely to her? So, no inviting family she doesnt know or get on with, just because it's the right thing to do. No inviting long lost friends, or friends of mum or dad. Just immediate friends, Mum, Dad and partners (she wants all these there) and leave the rest to her?

I've grown up in massive extended family with the mentality of 'well if you invite x, you have to invite y', but I don't want to pass this on and think she should decide who's there (if they want to come/can make it).

Open to opinions. Thanks!

Yes that’s fine.

Her party, her Guestlist

I'd have hated at 16 for a party to come with strings - you can have a DJ etc but of the guests we need 30 spaces for aunty Sue, Maureen and Pete from the pub etc.... it's wonderfully generous of you to throw her a party, let her choose who she wants to spend it with and if anyone else has a problem with it just say numbers were limited and she wanted to spend the night with her mates!

Absolutely.

Dd chose who to invite to her birthday parties from when she was at primary school - I wrote lists of who she wanted so that I could keep track of who was invited and whose parents had replied but it was her birthday so her party and up to who who came. DP and I just agreed on the number of friends that she could invite.

I certainly wouldn't tell a 16 year old that they had to invite certain people to their party.

Thank you for the responses so far. I want her to have the best time, and agree the party shouldn't have certain conditions. I know some people may feel that they should be invited, 'cos family' or whatever. But you're only 16 once!

I wouldn't, as an adult, want to go to a 16 year olds birthday party. Let her invite who she wants.

Like @cariadlet , my dc have chosen who to invite to their own parties / celebrations since they started school.
I can't understand why anyone would think it appropriate to be telling a 16 yr old who could or couldn't come to their party.

Mind, when mine had parties for their 18ths, they wanted to invite Grandparents / Aunts / Uncles and some long standing family friends, so hardly that controversial.

I think it’s wonderful you can give your daughter the gift of inviting whoever she wants to!

A sixteen year olds party is not a family party! I can't image any of your older family or friends would want to go.