My neighbour is freaking me out

[Belle45]

I live next door to a man in his late 50's. He lives alone.

I'm 33 and also live alone. He's taken it upon himself to "check in" on me. I'm extremely uncomfortable with this and I've told him multiple times that I'm okay and don't need someone to check on me.

He says that he's worried about me because I live alone.

He's just knocked on my door there to ask if I need help with my heating because it's getting cold.

I am not sure if he thinks I'm an idiot who doesn't know how to look after myself (being nice?) or he's being a creep.

How can I get him to leave me alone?

Yeah this. ^ I am so sorry you're going through this @Belle45 Urgh fucking entitled men! I am so sick of this shit now. Why in the name of hell does he think this is actually OK? What is going through their mind that makes them think that it's OK to keep pestering a young woman, young enough to be his daughter, 'checking in on her' to make sure she's OK?

Why does he think you need him or want him to keep calling? What a repugnant, revolting entitled article ewww. Stay focused OP - and as some posters have said, make a record of his harassment, and report it to the police. Before you contact the police though - if you can face it - tell him straight to his face that you don't want or need him to keep calling and visiting. And that if he doesn't stop it - you'll class it as harassment.

It's possible he is an angry little man who won't like rejection, but it's more likely he is just a sad little man who is desperate for attention. It's amazing the amount of men 45+ who think attractive young women half their age are going to be interested in them. 🤮 Probably thinks you're flattered and really excited that he is interested in you. BLEURGH! Hopefully if you tell him to stop, and leave you alone, he will crawl back under his rock!

I'd be wary of not answering the door because I'd be worried that he'd use that as an excuse to either peer in the windows, or keep coming back to the door, or even phone the police because he's "worried about you"!

It could be that he's a creep who fancies you, or he could be one of those blokes who has White Knight syndrome, where he thinks that an ickle woman might need his manly help.

In the scenario you mentioned about the heating OP, I'd have been inclined to use my incredulous face and say "Sorry? Help me with my heating? No I'm fine thanks." and then close the door. I'd also phone my most chatty friend just as I was leaving or arriving, so he doesn't get a chance to speak to you.

Either way, he sounds like a pest!

Poor you. What do you mean ‘he’s often there when you’re leaving or coming home’ he’s hanging about waiting for you to leave/arrive?

I think it’s time to get tough. Install Ring doorbell- don’t answer the door and full on ignore him. If he doesn’t stop. Report to the police for harassment.

OP what's the latest?