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To think he's taking the piss?

51 replies

Whatonearthhhhhh · 01/11/2023 18:45

Hi all
We have converted part of our house into an Airbnb and are having an issue with a guest currently.

Our bedroom is directly above the living room of the Airbnb so we can hear the guests usually but have never bothered by any sound in the 3 years it has been running. Everyone who has stayed have been quiet professionals. We now have an 18 year old boy staying who is doing a training course nearby for a month. He has been here for 4 days.

Last night around 9pm, two other cars showed up at the house and two girls went into the Airbnb. I asked what was happening and he said they were revising as they have a test tomorrow. He then later told me that the girls would be staying over. I wasn't happy with this as it's a rental for a single person with only one bed, but I said it was ok for one night. He is openly gay so I wasn't worried about them sharing a bed. He has only just arrived and he is 18 after all so I don't want to be a complete party pooper. The Airbnb agreement specifies no more than one overnight guest at a time so I thought I was being nice. I did ask if they could keep noise to a minimum after 11pm though as DP and I have to be up very early. He sent a very long, apologetic text and was adamant they'd be asleep by 11pm with zero noise.

At Midnight, I was woken up by loud laughing and talking etc so I sent him a text to ask him to be quiet. My text read: 'Hi XXX, you agreed that there would be no noise after 11pm but I have just been woken up, please can you keep it down?'

They then all jumped in their cars about 12:30 and woke me up again, slamming doors and laughing etc on the drive. He still isn't back.

This morning, he posted on my local Facebook page asking about what other rentals available even though he is booked with us for a month! A friend of his commented asking why he needs a rental and this is what he commented back: 'my airbnb host wasn't happy I was revising so instead of actually getting it done I got kicked out and had to waste my time finding somewhere else to revise.'

He also updated his profile picture to one of him holding a glass of wine in hand, posing in the Airbnb, wearing the same outfit as yesterday so it was clearly taken on the supposed 'revision night'

I'm feeling a bit miffed really, I thought I was being nice letting him have the girls stay.

Essentially he's invited some mates over for a few drinks, lied to me that they're just revising so I would think it's a quiet night and let them stay over. Then completely disregarded me asking him to be quiet. Now he's making up lies on social media?

Am I being old and petty? This doesn't really sit right with me. Why is he lying on social media about the situation and just not respecting that he needs to be quiet after 11pm on a weeknight. So publicly as well in a small Facebook group. There really aren't that many airbnbs around here and ours is quite well known.

How do I handle this? I would love to say something because he seems to be taking the piss but at the same time don't want to lose the money he has paid.

Any thoughts?

OP posts:
Raisinganiguana · 01/11/2023 20:04

I think your behaviour sounds bizarre tbh. I’d be shocked if my rental told me I couldn’t laugh with friends after 11pm. And why are you cyber stalking him? And taking offence! Weird

Basilton · 01/11/2023 20:14

You are not cut out for Airbnb, just stop doing it. I cannot believe what I am reading, it is none of your business whether your paying guest was revising or not. You are acting like he is your own teenage child rather than the customer he is. I am not surprised he wants out.

TheOneWhereWeDontGiveAPhuck · 02/11/2023 00:15

Why on earth were you asking him at 9pm what's going on? I'd back off with airbnb it's not for you. If this was my 18 year old kid I'd want him out of there.

wtfamireading · 02/11/2023 00:22

Wtf am I reading.

The replies are awful.

It's a residential street and part of the main house.

Someone has booked accommodation and invited friends (who they probably barely know) over.

They made a lot of noise.

Since when does oP have to put up with this......

AntonFeckoff · 02/11/2023 00:31

I’m also a bit surprised by the responses. He was very inconsiderate making that level of noise after 11pm, and ignoring the rule of no more than one overnight guest. Posting about it on FB is also odd. YANBU.

wtfamireading · 02/11/2023 00:32

AntonFeckoff · 02/11/2023 00:31

I’m also a bit surprised by the responses. He was very inconsiderate making that level of noise after 11pm, and ignoring the rule of no more than one overnight guest. Posting about it on FB is also odd. YANBU.

Yep. Two girls stayed over... which I assume was only a double bed....

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 02/11/2023 00:42

People can drink wine, laugh and talk whilst revising

Having your bedroom right above the living room of your rental accommodation is just bad planning tbh. It's inevitable that it'll end up causing problems if you get someone who likes to watch TV late for example. Late at night sounds can seem worse too, so it might not have been anything more than normal talking and laughing but because you were trying to sleep it sounded worse.

His sexuality doesn't matter, so what if he brought girls back to sleep with?

As long as he didn't name you then it's fine. And maybe being kicked out is his interpretation of what happened. He might just be exaggerating on FB for sympathy to get him somewhere else faster.

He's going, it's a win for you tbh

wtfamireading · 02/11/2023 00:43

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 02/11/2023 00:42

People can drink wine, laugh and talk whilst revising

Having your bedroom right above the living room of your rental accommodation is just bad planning tbh. It's inevitable that it'll end up causing problems if you get someone who likes to watch TV late for example. Late at night sounds can seem worse too, so it might not have been anything more than normal talking and laughing but because you were trying to sleep it sounded worse.

His sexuality doesn't matter, so what if he brought girls back to sleep with?

As long as he didn't name you then it's fine. And maybe being kicked out is his interpretation of what happened. He might just be exaggerating on FB for sympathy to get him somewhere else faster.

He's going, it's a win for you tbh

You would actually like to be in this situation?

Healthandsocialcaremodule · 02/11/2023 00:48

Get one of those wall signs for the rental.

No living
No laughing
No love

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 02/11/2023 00:50

wtfamireading · 02/11/2023 00:43

You would actually like to be in this situation?

Show quote history

What situation?

I wouldn't rent out part of my house as an Airbnb and then sleep above the living room. And if I had to then I'd expect noise at night and make arrangements accordingly. 11pm also isn't really that late to me, I can be home from work later than that.

And I'm also not really fussed what consenting adults happen to get up to in bed...

If the insurance only covers named guests or a certain number of guests then I wouldn't be giving permission to let others stay over either...

RantyAnty · 02/11/2023 01:14

Healthandsocialcaremodule · 02/11/2023 00:48

Get one of those wall signs for the rental.

No living
No laughing
No love

Grin
wtfamireading · 02/11/2023 01:15

@ButWhatAboutTheBees so you are passing judgement on something you wouldn't do or have any experience in.

As someone who uses Airbnb I know the drill.

RantyAnty · 02/11/2023 01:16

You're really nosy, controlling, and out of order and not cut out out for hosting.

Mentioning his sexuality is just gross.

AntonFeckoff · 02/11/2023 01:21

Healthandsocialcaremodule · 02/11/2023 00:48

Get one of those wall signs for the rental.

No living
No laughing
No love

I need one of these signs!

junbean · 02/11/2023 01:28

He agreed to the curfew. He agreed to the rules, both the original and the one off. It's 100% his fault. Don't reply on SM it will only make you look bad. These things never go well. Just go by the original contract through Airbnb and let it go. You've had a good run, you were bound to have issues at some point and this isn't bad at all compared to others. I have a friend who owns an Airbnb cleaning company and I've heard so many stories mostly involving vomit and poo. So count yourself lucky, take a deep breath, and be sure to contact Airbnb, especially about payment and his inevitable bad review.

edwinbear · 02/11/2023 01:31

This is why I don’t book AirB&B. So much drama, so much policing and it’s no cheaper these days than just booking a hotel where you don’t get spied on.

BiscuitBrewInMyBigBlueMug · 02/11/2023 01:32

🤣🤣

Olive19741205 · 02/11/2023 01:33

RubyBoozeDay · 01/11/2023 19:01

You sound like the nosy landlady of an old fashioned B&B. No noise after 11pm and no visitors. It sounds as if he has already decided to leave your premises. Maybe word your advert so that ONLY quiet studious professionals stay, going forward?

Isn't making no noise after 11pm the norm? My neighbours and I all kind of have an agreement to keep the noise down at night and anything during the day is fair game really.

myopinionmatters · 02/11/2023 01:34

He isn't your son. He paid to be there. Why are you asking him about his guest that's kind of weird.
You can comment on the noise I feel but the watching him and not being worried he isn't having sex is all weird

HoHoHoliday · 02/11/2023 01:45

I think you've forgotten that you are running a business and he is a paying customer. The fact that the airbnb is underneath your home is awkward, but that doesn't entitle you to check on the guests continuously.
He had some friends over. There was no need for you to ask what was going on, none of your business. Talking and laughing is acceptable earlier in the evening, it may be annoying, but it's allowed. Yes, after 11pm they should have kept quiet, but you'd probably riled them up by then with all the messages.
Since he's paid to stay there, I'd recommend you apologise and suggest he return to the flat.

Luckypom · 02/11/2023 06:10

@HoHoHoliday

this!

very greedy seeming - for someone not wanting to put up with small inconveniences?

I wouldn’t be too concerned anyway, surely you will not be booked out in future

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 02/11/2023 09:15

wtfamireading · 02/11/2023 01:15

@ButWhatAboutTheBees so you are passing judgement on something you wouldn't do or have any experience in.

As someone who uses Airbnb I know the drill.

I'm pointing out, as have many other people here, that having your bedroom above the living room is bad planning and that what someone gets up to with other people in bed is NOT your concern
(So long as it's not illegal, doesn't destroy the bed and isn't going to invalidate your insurance)

User0000009 · 02/11/2023 09:21

BaybeeTammy · 01/11/2023 18:55

Wow no wonder he left

Yeh. Lighten up he’s 18

ManateeFair · 02/11/2023 10:55

I don't think you can expect to have paying guests in your home and then stop them from having a chat in their room after 11pm because you want to go to sleep. He was chatting with friends and having a bottle of wine, not hosting a party.

Literally the only thing he did that he wasn't entitled to do under the terms of his booking with you was to have two overnight guests instead of one - and you say yourself that you ended up agreeing he could do that on this occasion anyway. And what business is it of yours whether he has sex with his guest or not?! You say that the Airbnb agreement says he can have one overnight guest, so are you saying that you'd only be OK with that if it was a guest he wasn't going to have sex with?!

wesurecouldstandgladioli · 02/11/2023 11:04

OhNoForever · 01/11/2023 18:53

Just leave him alone? He's not your child.

Wtf? OP is being kept awake by the twat will 12.30 and he’s a liar to boot, why would you think she cares about the little shit to mother him?