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Distressed dogs next door

12 replies

Inaquandary33 · 01/11/2023 18:29

I'd like to stress that this isn't about the noise. Sometimes it's irritating, but not unmanageable. I know living in a terraced house comes with noise.

However, I wondered if I would be being unreasonable to approach my next door neighbour about their dogs. They have three. I work from home. I also home board dogs as a side business. So I do know that dogs bark and that's just how it is.

However, the reason I'm coming to ask is because these three howl and bark on and off ALL DAY. Literally for hours at a time sometimes. They're obviously distressed.

There are a couple of issues I see with approaching the neighbours about it:

  1. They know my landlord and they own their home. I'd rather not get any complaints. Particularly because I also board dogs and my landlord's condition for doing that was, if he gets any noise complaints I'll have to stop. But I am in all day to manage barking and do lots of walks/enrichment to minimise it.
  1. They're not that approachable. They come across as a little arrogant and entitled actually and I know they've had issues with some of our other neighbours in the past around parking (they park three huge vehicles on our narrow street - but that's for another thread entirely)
  1. I dont want to inadvertently sound accusatory - no one likes to be told they're essentially neglecting their dogs.

But sometimes they're out from 7am until 8pm. And then in the evening at the weekends sometimes too.

I'd report it to someone, but they'd likely know it was me as the neighbour on their other side is separated by a ginnel rather than an adjoining wall so likely can't hear it like I can.

What do I do?! WIBU to say something? And how would you approach it given the circumstances?

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Ibravedaflood · 01/11/2023 18:31

Shouting stfu works ime.. Sadly going through the proper channels is best.. Before people think the noise is from your guests.

Zanatdy · 01/11/2023 18:53

That’s sad. Can you offer help? To let the dogs out at least? Maybe they will be more willing to listen if offer help (if in a position to do so). Incredibly cruel to leave dogs that long

Dinglewoop · 01/11/2023 19:32

Oh my gosh, I have exactly the same problem! Neighbours have two rescue greyhounds that howl the entire time if they're left alone and they go out and leave them for 8-12 hours all the time. Again the noise doesn't bother me apart from hearing an animal in distress is very sad. So far I've done nothing as again neighbours are very stand-off-ish. No idea what is best to do! Very interested to see what advice you get.

paintingvenice · 01/11/2023 19:35

Kindly tell them. They might not be aware, depending on how you do it you could come across as helpful. If you are a dog lover, and the noise doesn’t bother you- rather you just want them to know so they can look to managing the situation from a pet wellbeing point of view they might be receptive.

nottaotter · 01/11/2023 19:38

@Dinglewoop that is really upsetting , if the charity that re homed them knew I think they would take them back.

Dinglewoop · 01/11/2023 20:09

@nottaotter I know! I have thought about contacting authorities but as animal shelters are so overrun I thought it was nicer for them to be in a home even if it's not ideal? I've also thought about offering to walk dogs (when they do get walked it's only about 100m) but they have no recall and can be a bit boisterous (have chased my dog and knocked me over in the past) so I wouldn't feel safe doing this (for me or public). I wonder if OP is in a similar boat?

nottaotter · 01/11/2023 20:15

@Dinglewoop yes completely understandable about not feeling safe walking them, at least they are together in the house.

Inaquandary33 · 01/11/2023 23:02

Thank you for your replies. I have considered offering to pop in or walk them. It's weird as well, I never ever see them walk the dogs. And I bump into them constantly as I'm stepping out to walk my guests multiple times a day. But I've never once seen those dogs outside of the house in the 18 months since they moved in. They also spend a lot of time in the small back yard just barking. It drives my eldest son mad as his bedroom is at the back of the house.

I think I'm just going to have to try and approach it with an offer to help as a pp said. I had considered that they don't actually know that the dogs howl so much.

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myopinionmatters · 02/11/2023 02:17

Have issues like this as well I do ignore it though

longtompot · 02/11/2023 10:35

They'd have to be particularly stupid, or just not care, not to know dogs would bark and howl if left alone for that length of time, especially without walks.
I hope you get a resolution as hearing dogs barking for any length of time is distressing

VeridicalVagabond · 02/11/2023 10:49

I don't understand why people get dogs if they're just going to leave them alone all day ☹️ it seems to be an increasingly common thing to get a dog and then just do nothing with it. Our old neighbours had a Labrador which they never ever walked, barked constantly, and shat constantly all over their fake plastic lawn (which they then didn't pick up for weeks so it reeked). Like surely it's just better for everyone to not own a dog if you're not going to look after it properly?

Hope you find a solution OP, hopefully they'll be grateful and accept your help!

Dinglewoop · 02/11/2023 12:57

That's so sad if they're not getting walked at all 😔

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