To resign after five weeks

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I've recently taken a p/t role working in a small office.

The role is administrative and has the usual requirements of diary management, expenses and minute taking.

I believe they had someone else in the position some time ago but have been managing these tasks themselves for several months since that person left.

I was a bit undecided before I took the position but it's good money and I have the relevant experience so I thought why not.

We didn't get off to the best start and I think unfortunately this has continued and I now dread going in to the office.

I feel their expectations are out of touch with reality and that they have given me very little room for error when I've had no handover and while I'm an experienced assistant I have no previous experience in this sector.

I suppose my question is AIBU to resign? I just feel utterly shoot about the situation tbh

Cut your losses.

If resigning won't put you in major financial difficulty, then yes, absolutely resign. You really don't need to waste time staying in a job that's simply not right for you, and if you resign quickly, missing it off your CV won't leave you with a big gap.

Thank you both. My DH has said the same.

We're fortunate that we don't rely on my salary. I've been there five weeks and have come home crying at least four times so far.

I just feel like a huge failure and a fraud. They've made me really doubt my abilities.

The other issue is that while half the office are a-holes the others are lovely.

I'd find it easier if they were all awful!

Honestly, cut your losses. I once felt like this three weeks into a new job and I really wish I'd been able to walk out.

Settling in to a new role is always hard and stressful!

stick to your guns, and if they want to try and bully you, smile sweetly at them.

youll probably find out later on, that Brenda’s daughter wanted the job, but she wasn’t qualified and stunk!

it’s good money, half the office are lovely, your glass is half full, after the Christmas party a couple more will wonder why they are arseholey towards you etc etc

if you want to leave, leave.

but if it ticks all the boxes on paper, then allow yourself time to settle in

Cut your losses it ain't worth it. Even if have the staff are nice they will cover their backs with regards to the not so nice staff. I have just resigned from a job like this. Even talked to an ex boss about it as they made me feel I couldn't do the job but they are so disorganised it made my job a nightmare.

Cut your losses and look for something else. You've very little to lose.

How long is it since your last job prior to this one?

Since you can live without the money, just cut your losses.
Years ago, I had a job like this that was making me cry but couldn’t leave because we needed my salary, there was a day I was waiting for my train and all I could think of was how easy it’ll be to just jump on the track and not have to go to work anymore, that’s when I knew I couldn’t continue that way and started actively searching for another job aggressively.
I was still there for 3 more months after but searching for the jobs meant I was happier as it felt like there was a light at the end of the tunnel.

Just leave

Leave! You shouldn’t be crying after work. Enjoy life x

If you can afford them quit.

Life is too short.

Leave if you can, life's too short for this! If you don't need to work why not train to do something more enjoyable, I would if I had the chance!

I cry sometimes after work due to frustrations, overworked, bone idle colleagues, lack of support, lack of acknowledgement of just how bloody hard I work while the lazy bugger's get slapped on the back and babied.
30 yrs in my industry, I rely on my wages but if I didn't they wouldn't see me for dust.
I'm late 50's, too old to learn new tricks.
Don't even bother going back tomorrow, send an email stating why you're not returning, politely.
Life is too short, trust me

Thanks all. I've spent some time today looking in to courses I could do - so that feels positive.

Someone mentioned up thread about working somewhere where everyone was disorganised and if making the job 1000 time harder.

That's EXACTLY how I feel! Everything is done in such an awkward way that even the simplest task is a pain.

No one ever seems happy with my output and I think it's because I'm always behind. It's simply not a p/t role!

Absolutely dreading having to work my notice!

I think that's what is really holding me back

Your notice will be a week won't it? They might just tell you not to come back.

One week of crap is worth it to do something you enjoy.

It's a month 😑

You say you don’t ‘need’ to work, but unless you’re wealthy without reliance on your H’s salary / pension I’d disagree! Woukd seek a new job before leaving, as it’s easier to secure another job when already in paid work.

It's not you, no one goes into a job with no handover and no respect and succeeds. It doesn't need to be like this, you're not a failure. By leaving you're bettering yourself which will lead you to success

Thank you @TravellingT

I really find it hard not to blame myself for this perceived failure.

Many friends have been shocked by their expectations.

An example of this is expecting me to minute a four hour meeting that start 30 minutes after my arrival, on my first day (!!)) without a working laptop, any sight of the agenda or even knowing anyone's name!

And then bringing up the fact I was late submitting said minutes to a room full of Partners.

I should have left then 🤯

So they expected you to note by hand and then type up four hours of meeting? That's bonkers and highlights their inefficiency.

@CesareBorgia yep!

But what I found most shocking was I didn't even know anyone name! How can I attribute actions to people when I don't know who they are 😭

I did actually thinking was a joke at first. I was stunned when I realised it was a serious request.

This is also a highly technical field. I have absolutely no idea what they're talking about 😵‍💫

It's also costing me £60 a day when I go in to the office so I don't even think I'm better off financially.

I really need to resign don't I 😑

Anyone with sense would have had someone else do the minutes while you observed - ideal opportunity for you to familiarise yourself with the people and start getting your head round the technical language.

Yep.