Boyfriend

[Kleeklee86]

So I’ve been with my bf for two years I struggle to talk about certain things including money, I’m struggling atm he buys grocery’s every week but I’m paying for rent etc, this hadn’t been a problem for me up until a few months back when I had to pay out money regularly now I’m feeling like I’m working to live! My moods have changed because of this and he says I take it out on him I don’t argue or shout just go into quiet mode and don’t want to talk?? I feel like just saying shall we go out deprecate ways then??

How on earth has he moved into your home without having a conversation and agreeing that he would pay half rent and all bills.

1. Set up a spreadsheet of all the household costs.

1. Show him the list

1. Explain costs need to be split 50.50. Add up the total

1. Set up a joint account into which you both put that amount of money.

1. Transfer all household bills to that account.

If he doesn't agree to share the cost of living in a property then he moves out. Now.

Yes perhaps it is best you separate if you're not mature enough to have a basic conversation about costs of living

OP, he’s a cocklodger. He needs to pay half of rent, bills, council tax - EVERYTHING.

If he refuses, get him out TODAY.

Ok don't feel it is to late.
Sit down and stipulate he pays for rent, power and food.
What else?
Your in minimum wage, your frustration needs put to rest by dealing with the issue.
If he has problems with it send him on his way.

Why doesn't he pay rent and bills???

OP I was advise counselling if you fear communicating due to passed relationships.

Your boy friend must know he is taking the piss financially. And he is happy to do so. I couldn’t be in a relationship like this.

Chuck hun out and start again…

Did you lose your council tax single person discount, he should be paying extra to cover that. I refuse to let a man move in with me until we've been together at least 5 years, all previous bfs have respected my need for my own space.

He's been in hospital and I've stayed in his, which has saved me money in travel expenses. So I've paid for the utilities I've used while there. When you are on a tight budget then that's what you have to do. We are both mortgage free and don't want to combine finances (at 56). We both have health issues which impacts on working. If we split there'll be no recriminations etc. We mix in the same circles, so won't ever fully part company. It works for us.