To ask you about a time you left a job you hated and it all turned out ok?

[DelusionalBrilliance]

Really struggling with my mental health the past year or so, totally aware this is most likely a “me” thing and not necessarily the work place, but I’m really at the end of my tether.

Basic call centre type job, outbound calls but not selling nor commission based. Been there just over a year and my god it’s soul destroying. Lots of internal office drama, constant feedback that’s rarely positive and no progression.

Feel like I’m in such a worse place mentally than I was before I started here. Prior to this I was a SAHM, my youngest is still just a baby of 18 months.

Financially it wouldn’t be awful, but would have to cut back on a few minor things.

I suppose I just feel like a bit of a failure, can’t even hack it in a low level job without feeling crap.

Should I just leave?

Did you ever walk out on a job for mental health reasons and things got better?

Thanks for reading x

God yes, I quit the best-paid job I ever had after six months twenty years ago. Even being unemployed for two years was an improvement.

Yep. I only worked there for six weeks but knew I'd made a mistake taking the job there. Bosses lied to clients and employees, made everyone miserable. Even drove past my house once to make sure I wasn't home!

Walked out on a Monday morning after the owner tried to start another bitchfest. Got home to the phone ringing (landline days ) and it was owner swearing and saying I'd never work in the industry again.

Got my dream job a couple of weeks later.

If you can manage without it then quit. Not worth stress when you have a young family who need you.

Oh yes, probation periods are your friend.
It starts at interview really- they should be trying to sell you the job! Spot red flags. Ask about staff turnover. Ask how long your predecessor was in the job for.

Ask if you can have a call or meet the team before signing:)

A good thread might be what red flags did you miss or ignore when interviewing for a job...

I left a job where I was being bullied by my boss to the point it was affecting my mental health. I resigned on the spur of the moment with nothing else lined up and got a new job that was better paid fairly quickly. Obviously there’s no guarantee, but I think I’d be looking for something else as soon as possible if you need the money. Whether you quit while you look depends on how badly you need the money and how badly it’s affecting you staying there.

Oh god please leave. Does it need to be this or no work though? Working towards a change could be a huge boost to your morale even if it takes longer than walking out, two fingers aloft.
Apologies if there's some reason you've explained, I can't see it.

I'd start looking at flexible places with progression. Civil service depending what's in your area or suitable remotely, NHS, supermarkets, call centres for big companies with good employment policies. A recruiter might help you jump ship shorter term

I think knowing you're taking steps to leave will kept the work shit contained mentally. Good luck. If it's awful and you can manage then call it a day but this could be a compromise that may make things a bit comfier financially.

I’m reading your thread with a tear in my eye as I’m feeling sick at the thought of going to work tomorrow. I hate it so much, I spent a large part of last year off sick. I love my job but hate the people especially management. Just before I went off sick I was the subject of gossip and lies were being told about me, whilst off sick lies were still getting told (apparently I was out living it up) I am desperately trying to get a move but failing that I can see me one day walking out and never going back.

Yes several times.

I left one job it was just awful - I had literally nothing lined up and the headteacher was dire (I was a teacher) left at Easter (resigned) and went onto an online site and there was a job for a deputy headship a bit further away and I thought why not - and it was twice the pay and although I didn’t love it - that year enabled me to find my dream job for the following September - never regretted it.

life is too short.

In the past five years I've left two jobs after a short time due to managers negatively impacting my mh. Both times I went back to my old job so was fortunate both times that I was able to go back. i don't regret it, life is too short to be miserable.

Low level jobs are often the most stressful. You have minimal autonomy, often have to deal with members of the public (which can be a nightmare), constant pressure from upper micro managers. The narrative that 'management' jobs are more stressful is complete BS. Most of them are a doddle compared to the people on the floor actually doing the real work of any organization.

Quit. Take some time off. Life is too short.

Life is to short to live in misery like this plus we spend so much of our good years at work, why waste time in a bad environment.

I think a complete change is what you need. Is there a career path you've always wanted to follow? A total career change.

Once you hand your notice in (which I'd keep short and sweet) you will feel a huge weight has been lifted.

My own recent experience of leaving a job (that just dragged me down) has turned out so well, my only regret is that I didn't make my move earlier. Good luck.

Walked out midshift. Told them they were the most unwelcoming team I'd ever worked with and to shove their job. I was on universal credit for 4 months while looking for a new job and out of desperation, applied for a job I'd never have thought I could do in a million years but actually I got quite good at it and I love it now. It's a great team, cushy job, perfect hours and really good boss.

I did! And I’m a teacher, so thought that it was the profession that was the problem! I both loved and hated aspects of my old job but my new job is so much better. It was a wrench to leave (had been at the same place for ages) but it’s had a huge positive impact. Go for it, OP!

Life is way too short to stay in a job you hate. Apply to everything you can whilst tailoring your experience and applications to match the job spec. Don't write anything off, sign up to agencies.

Good luck. I've previously left a job with nothing else, thankfully I had savings and no outgoings at the time. I couldn't do it now, I need an income.

@DelusionalBrilliance what about going back to College? There’s plenty of people I know who have dove that, retrained in something completely different. You’d probably be starting in August though. Depending on your household income you’d get a grant or loan plus child care for your DC. You would train on something you truly enjoy and upskill yourself making yourself more appealing to the job market.

For me it’s a win win 😀

Get yourself on LinkedIn and get applying for other stuff

Easier to get a job if you have a job