Am I right to feel taken for granted.

[maria57]

Dropped what I was doing and helped a friend out when needed
She was going to come and pick me up as we live a fair distance away from each other.
Two days before she decided she was not up to the driving
She asked me how much it would cost me to come by train...she weighed it up on the phone.
She then said to me ...You pay for your train fare and I will 'feed you' whilst at mine... Like she was doing me a favour!
I felt humiliated when I come off the phone and was going to cancel. But went along rather than let her down.
Am I right in believing if someone goes out their way to help you, travels a fair distance in doing so, pays for their own train fare (which was alot of money for me as I dont have that sort of money to play around with)...that it goes without saying you would 'feed them' and also reimburse the train fare?
I know I would...I would not leave anyone out of pocket if they went out their way to help me. Aso this person is quite well off.

Friendship shouldn't be transactional.

I felt humiliated when I come off the phone and was going to cancel. But went along rather than let her down.

There's your problem right there. Putting people before your own wellbeing.

So she asked you to help her, you worked hard and saved her a lot (financially or otherwise) but she wouldn't do it for you?

OP you're not describing a friend but a user. In what ways has she used you before?

OP, what a user.

Why didn't youisten to your humiliation?

It was trying to warn and protect you.

This person is a user.

She knew well the train was costly but thought that not only could she use you for a hard job, she could get you to pay to get there.

You need to lean into that humiliation.

If you don't this will happen again.

We teach people how to treat us.

People like her are never grateful when they use people like you to such an extent.

They just think you are a huge mug who doesn't know any better.

I'm sorry, its harsh, but its the truth.

I have come across lovely people like you and also heard the way users speak of people who oblidge them.

You deserve to treat yourself better.