What happened when you turned 30?

[Whatintheworldgirl]

I don't want to express my inner thoughts because I don't want to trigger anyone but life is and has been horrific since I was 4 years old. Turning 30 yesterday I feel mentally I am alot more aware however I still dread waking up everyday. Did any positives come from your 30s? Need positive stories if I'm honest. What did you achieve? Do you feel stronger? Do you feel more secure in yourself?

Yes a much better decade than 20s for the majority of people.

What do you think you need to do to keep things moving forward. Have you tried therapy or had some treatment for anxiety?

I had young children so most of the decade was spent running around after them and trying to fit work and things for me in around that. I was certainly much more aware of what I wanted in life by the age of 40, much more confident in who I was and had to learn to prioritise my health and wellbeing by my late 30s.

Life can get better. As you get older, it gets easier to detach from the past - and recognise what you need to detach from.

I hope turning 30 can be a new start for you - just don't watch Logan's Run!

I ended a long term relationship (we lived together and had a mortgage) a couple of months before my 30th birthday. I feared I’d be alone forever, childless and miserable but I knew the pain of staying would outweigh the pain of going. I took a year out of dating to focus on myself and learned how to be happy without attention and validation from men. I learned all about attachment styles and figured out how mine was impacting me and my relationships. I did cognitive behavioural therapy (but home study) on overcoming low self esteem. I did some solo holidays/trips which dramatically improved my confidence. I healed my relationship with food and stopped binge eating by studying intuitive eating. Then a year or 2 after that I met my now husband and father of my child. In other words my thirties have been so bloody transformative.