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Kindly...

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MasterBeth · 29/10/2023 21:45

Am I Being Unreasonable to think that starting your post with "Kindly," does not absolve you from being mean and cruel, and often suggests you are about to be?

("Kindly, you are a wretched human being with terrible ways and appalling instincts." etc)

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LessonsInPhysics · 30/10/2023 13:58

We used to get "gentle reminders" from school, which translated as "This is the first you've heard about this."
I've seen gently used with some modicum of empathy but kindly is as passive aggressive as telling someone else to "be kind".

Sebsaloysius · 30/10/2023 14:20

I always think the Oxford dictionary should change the definitions of the word 'kindly' and phrase 'with the greatest of respect' to 'patronising twat'.

Edited because I need a dictionary as I can't spell 😂

BloodyHellKen · 30/10/2023 14:50

YANBU. In our house we use 'with respect' ironically so we can insult each other in an amusing way 😂

ManchesterLu · 30/10/2023 15:15

Yep. Same as 'I'm not being funny, but', or 'No offence, but'..

Findyourneutralspace · 30/10/2023 15:17

‘I’m not being funny right, but….’

MassiveWordSalad · 30/10/2023 15:26

MummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 30/10/2023 11:59

In the same vein as "I'm not being funny but..." In other words, "I'm about to give something/someone an absolute pasting but I don't want to look like a twat"

"Kindly" I definitely see as passive aggressive. Again, in other words "I'm about to give you an absolute bollocking but I don't want to look like a twat"

"Gentle reminder" ; "I need to give you all a kick up the arse but I don't want to look like a twat"

It's 'reminder'. Or "just a reminder", or "quick reminder" if you think you might come off as abrupt. None of this gentle bollocks.

Yes, I was going to say this but you've already done it for me. Cheers Grin

Legendairy · 30/10/2023 15:31

Pulverised · 29/10/2023 21:51

I also hate these ‘gentle reminders’ we are getting at work these days. Vaguely passive aggressive. Just tell us to do it!

Yeah what is that, such bizarre wording. Just a reminder, or important reminder will do. Gentle reminder sounds dickish TBH 🤣

Legendairy · 30/10/2023 15:34

MummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 30/10/2023 11:59

In the same vein as "I'm not being funny but..." In other words, "I'm about to give something/someone an absolute pasting but I don't want to look like a twat"

"Kindly" I definitely see as passive aggressive. Again, in other words "I'm about to give you an absolute bollocking but I don't want to look like a twat"

"Gentle reminder" ; "I need to give you all a kick up the arse but I don't want to look like a twat"

It's 'reminder'. Or "just a reminder", or "quick reminder" if you think you might come off as abrupt. None of this gentle bollocks.

We get an email monthly with this on, just for normal deadline stuff that generally no one ever misses as it's basically our whole jobs (accountants) to complete month end accounts. So it's not even a reminder because we haven't done anything, it's just gentle reminder that x,y,z is due today at 5pm.

SweetBirdsong · 30/10/2023 15:35

Argh I hate this too @MasterBeth !!! Drives me crazy. As a few posters have said it's like 'with all due respect' and 'I'm not being funny but...' etc. So annoying.

Weirdly I was about to post this same thing today, as I have seen this quite a bit lately, and I thought it was the final straw and I WILL post about it soon, when someone said yesterday, 'kindly OP...' and then said something quite mean.' (It was on one of the Matthew Perry threads.)

Someone on there said 'putting 'kindly' before what you say does NOT make it kind!' and this poster was right. It proper pisses me off. Angry

Thanks for posting this. Saved me a job! Grin

RubyBoozeDay · 30/10/2023 15:38

"I'm not being funny but..." followed by something breathtakingly insulting. One of my colleagues says this ALL. THE. TIME 🙄

I'm not being funny but what have you done to your hair/eyebrows/face etc

It is incredibly annoying and incredibly rude.

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