So patents split when I was a baby, saw dad sporadically at weekends. Had a big fall out over literally nothing when I was a teenager & didn’t see him for 20 years. I got back in touch with him & all was really good. He was with a new partner for over 30 years & we all got along well. She died a few years ago & he had a sizeable inheritance. Offered me a chunk of it a year later which I refused, but said “I don’t need anything right now, but I’ll let you know if that changes “. Long story short, I then could do with a cash injection to extend our house (we had to downsize massively a couple of years ago). No prob, says dad I’ll transfer x £ tomorrow. Now 6 months later he keeps going on about this money - I’ve offered it back as it’s not yet spent, due to delays in the planning process. He then insists, no it’s not a problem, but then a week or so later it rears it’s head again. It absolutely was not a loan - if so we would have discussed payment timeframes, it was definitely a gift at the time of giving. It was brought up by him at a family lunch today, in front of my in-laws (I felt an inch tall). I’m going to transfer it back to him tomorrow as I am just so p*ed off with him & don’t want to feel indebted. It was offered as a gift but now seems not so. I honestly am not so annoyed about our plans being spoilt, we will still do it, but will just have to save up for another 3 or 4 years, just feel a little hurt at his to-ing & fro-ing.🤦🏻♀️