AIBU to just sometimes be so fed up with DPs attitude

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So my DP has woken up this morning and just chosen to be miserable from the start. We start every Sunday morning with him and DD having breakfast whilst I shower as I can't eat as soon as waking up but they do. He said 'are we all going to go for breakfast' and I said no, I'm showering first as you know I don't eat breakfast first thing. And he huffed and said 'of course you are' so I go down to make DD breakfast and we are trying her with ready brek for the first time and he's just saying 'she's not going to eat that' so I add some of her fruit to it. I'm standing in front just to help her with her first spoonful as sometimes she says 'mummy help' and he says 'well she's not gonna eat with you standing in front of her like that' so I just go for my shower. Once I'm at the shower I get ready and get DD ready whilst he goes and spends an hour on the toilet playing on his phone. I take DD downstairs and make my breakfast, whilst it's cooling I'm playing with her. He comes down still on his phone to 'play' but stays on his phone. I tell him to put it down as DD wants to play and he said 'says you who was playing on your phone' so I say 'what are you on about, my phone is up there?!' So he just ignores me when I say that. I start eating my breakfast and he's still on his phone.. I say I'm just going to do the bins because they are so full rubbish is now all over our kitchen side.. he moans about that saying that we are meant to be going out to get some bits and that I'm being long when I even said last night we will go out once I've done the bins. I know it sounds petty but he has days like this where he just moans and it winds me up. It's Sunday, there's no rush and I just want to enjoy the day. AIBU that this has wound me up? It happens often and I find it hard to enjoy the weekends because of his attitude.

Honestly, it sounds like you’ve both been as bad as each other this morning. If he’s been in the toilet for an hour, why didn’t you do the bins then? If he and DD normally have breakfast together while you shower, why were you taking over? You clearly have a very fixed routine in the morning but are complaining that he’s the one rushing you…and yet apparently he’s spent an hour in the toilet which suggests he was quite happy taking it easy..?

I would be fed up too OP! Who spends an hour on the toilet/phone! Stuff like that gets on my nerves, why doesn’t he help/do bins?
are you happy together? To me it doesn’t sound it, if this is how he is on weekends together, I’d be considering more time on my own with DD

I'd say that he wasn't in that much of a hurry if he was happy to sit on the toilet for an hour!
But by the same token, couldn't you have done the bins during that hour? Surely your DD could sit in front of the tv for 2 minutes without your direct supervision? And the fact she can say "mummy help", implies she's hardly a tiny baby.
Frankly, it sounds like six of one and half a dozen of the other.

It sounds like you feel the same way about each other to be honest?

Have things been this way for a while? Have you spoken about it? I'd start there or have an honest think about why the relationship is how it currently is, what would need to change for it to not be this way and whether that is something both of you see willing to work on.

I could have let DD sit in front of the TV but she wanted to play and I wasn't aware we were in a hurry because I had told my DP I'd get the house in order before we head out. With me helping make her breakfast, I do help some mornings as I am downstairs grabbing myself a drink. Basically what I am saying is, DP was just looking for a moan. It can be anything, regardless of how the day goes he's just sometimes in a mood and looking for things to moan at the second he wakes and it's driving me insane.. and no I'm not happy with it. We have some really good days where he is happy but most days he loves finding anything to whinge about. Yesterday he started moaning at me in the car because on the way back we took a different turning to the way we came and I just said 'oh we are going a different way' it turned into 'no. We are going the same way, we will be joining the same road we came on so we aren't going a different way' and so on.. he wouldn't let it go at the fact I noticed we weren't going back the way we came..