AIBU for checking cheating husbands phone

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AITA for checking my cheating husbands phone?

Back in July my husband developed an inappropriate friendship with a mutual friend and at the same time started treating me like utter shit! I asked a few times if something was going on with them and was completely gaslight.

In September he finally left his phone unattended after a few drinks and I checked it and saw the gory details of their affair including the truth about recent “work trips” etc. And also the amount of shit they said about me. I confronted him and told him I wanted a divorce. He seems to not believe that I saw their chat, because his birthday as his passcode is just too hard to crack 🙄. He still keeps denying anything physical happened and keeps gaslighting me. So I found his old phone and have kept an eye on it and keep dropping breadcrumbs to try and get him to finally admit it and stop blaming me for the breakdown of our marriage.

Now they think someone in their inner circle is feeding me information AITA for still checking his phone?

Check the phone, take screenshots and move on. Enough of the breadcrumbs nonsense. Take back control.

People won’t really be interested in his opinion of you, they will take it with a pinch of salt. It’s hard but try not to let it get to you x

Phone is away, thanks all!

It sounds like morbid curiosity and a bad habit at this point OP. A bit like doomscrolling for the dopamine.

Wean yourself off it! You’re better than this, and he’s a twat. Autocorrected to tart, hah hah. He’s that too.

Oops old thread!

Do you live for the drama? If not then leave

You know the truth, you saw it with your own eyes. Why does it matter if you hear it from his mouth? You know the truth and you’re divorcing him. remind yourself that he’s a cheating asshole and you’re saving yourself years of heartache by leaving now. Work on healing and making yourself happy alone and forget this complete tosser.

If the idiot is slagging you off to all and sundry, I’d be dropping gory details to the same people. It isn’t fair that he’s saying you’re talking shit and why should you lose friends?

Zombie thread, hopefully the op has long moved on.