To feel a bit sort of scared about everything

[Isitjustmetheniwonder]

Regarding the world at the moment and the future? The costs of everything, the situation for my Dd in the future and us in old age. It used to be that if you worked hard, you were ok, now we just work and work with not much reward.
We live abroad and the U.K. was always our safe place to return home to if anything happened, now I just keep hearing how terrible everything is
I’m usually a happy, positive person, since covid it all seems to have changed, this fear feeling about the future is quite strong though.
Anyone have any positivity about the future they can share??

@WTLife The 90’s…🤷🏻‍♀️(Perhaps it just felt that way) the time up until covid

But it’s not the way the world is. The human species is doomed, that’s the positive side I guess, hopefully we’ll die off!

I had no problem with the 90s myself but that's one decade on a lifetime. That also depends who you are. There were a lot of middle aged to older people who were all prepared for a secure retirement with investments - only to lose it all and have nothing after the big crash then. One of my children has a serious medical condition and the kind of treatments available in the 90s pale compared to now. There were wars.

As for the time between then and up till Covid, I don't know how old you are but I am old enough to remember how drastically the world changed after 2001. I don't think that was an easy or relaxed period of human history. There were wars too. Increased terrorism and threat of that.

The world has never and will never be a settled place.

What I suggest is not reading too much doom and gloom (I stick with main headlines) and make the most of the little things that are important in your life and corner of the world. Find the joy in the day to day. If you have a roof over your head and food to eat, you already have a lot more than many.

The same shit happened 30 years ago. It just wasn’t all over Twatter then. My folks had it fucking hideous in the 80s for example.

Climate change is the one true difference that we are much more clued up on now but trying to make a change now, across the world, is like pissing in the wind.

I mostly try to think about what skills DS is going to need into adulthood and save whatever spare cash we do have to give him a leg up.

The best way to be optimistic and hopeful about the future is to stop being a passive bystander in the world.
If you think something is wrong or "scary" work to change it with like-minded people, get involved in political activism and organisations.
Why would things get better if no one is willing to try to change them?

Seriously stop reading the news. Best thing ever. Mumsnet too actually. Seems less bad than the news, and it is, but you just get sooo much negativity on here.

i mean if you look at a map of bombs dropped on London in ww2 you can barely see it for all the red dots…it’s a miracle anyone survived! And I’m sure, for certain, that sitting here right now in the Uk is better than sitting here was then with all those bombs dropping.

The world has always been up and down, the sheer amount of news sources hugely impact our perception though now. You need to curate what you read - switch off completely and you’ll feel so much better soon.

If you really are worried about your children's futures then start teaching them basic skills.

1. How to build and make fire.
2. How to make a basic shelter
3. What water is safe to drink, and how to make unsafe water safe.

The future is scary for sure. But it ever was thus. One of the best pieces of advice I ever had was supposedly Buddhist in origin. It basically said..... if it is possible for you to change what is troubling you, then get off your arse and change it. And if it's not possible to change it, then learn to accept it. That mindset has helped me somewhat. But I'm with op......there's an awful lot outside my control, and I don't like the way the world is going. I'm old now, so the fear is not so much for me, but for my kids and grandkids. Dunno if this is a generation thing. I hope so.

Firstly, I should caveat this. Some of this is only possible from a privileged starting point.

I'm working on lowering my day to day outgoings. For me this includes buying a place that, using savings, I can reasonably expect to own outright in 5 years or so. No rent & a spare room to rent should make me quite resilient in a lot of ways. I'm working on my growing skills, for the garden & an allotment plot.

I'm also in a couple of movements/groups, and working on being able to take on more roles. Increased resilience means it's possible to consider more freely direct action that will have adverse effects on employment.

My lifestyle and hobbies is more generally is increasingly tilting towards being more compatible with the above. I'm out of love with a lot of mainstream ideas of a good life. It's not the most coherent or radical plan, it's something that evolves as I figure out what the best I can do is

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