AIBU? So we've just been to a family party with all of my husbands brothers, their wives, his mother, grandmother, and all the grandkids. The boy grandkids went off to play on video games in the front room. 2 of my children were in there. I popped my head around the door to see where my youngest had gone(he's 18 months and just starting to talk). He was in there but was just watching the boys play.
As I turned to leave I overheard one of the other boys (my children's cousin) say "I'm going to teach him to say the f word". I went in and recovered my children and told them we were leaving-it was past their bedtime anyway. I went back to find my husband who was sitting chatting at the table and asked if we could leave to get the kids to bed. I felt quite rude but I was so upset about what I heard.
This isn't the first time I've been disgusted by what I've heard them say on similar occasions. The last time I caught the same cousin humping (with clothes on and in a jokey playfighty way) another boy cousin saying "I'm going to rape you". He's 9, my kids are 8,6 and 1.5.
what should I have done? I don't feel comfortable telling off other peoples children. I also don't want to cause a rift in the family. I swear, I get it. But if I overheard my children talking like that I would be utterly disgusted and I'd make sure they knew it was wrong to say things like that, especially in front of younger children. (There was also 6 & 5 year olds in there.)
if they are happy with their children behaving like that, it's up to them. But I don't want to expose my children to that ever again. It's made family occasions really awkward and stressful. They are a very close family and I don't want to upset anyone, but no way is it happening again. Am I overreacting? All the other cousins are lovely, it's just the boys from that particular family. Do I refuse to go? Do I go but not allow my kids to play with said cousins?? Do I grow some balls and speak to the parents?? Help!!