Hello Lovely ladies, I am here for some honest feedback as I am struggling with this dilemma. Adding some context, married for 10+ years and have a 4 year old son. My DH when I first met him came across as an extremely calm person. Only after marriage I started seeing his short tempered nature. His behaviour and thoughts are driven by logic, he sees things only in black and white and when things doesn’t make sense, he gets irritated, irritates me and we go on a loop of arguments. My biggest nightmare is going on holidays with him as we ends up in a big fight all the time. I used to be a short tempered person but around him I am always walking on egg shells to not come across as arguing in front of our child. However when he has a go at me, I lose my patience. It is always over petty things like, he never take accountability for his actions. What irritates me the most is, because he is a smart cookie will find reasons to make me look like the culprit. The most impressive behaviour of him is that none of the people who know him will ever believe he has this side to his personality. Even if his friends and family do the most mean things, he never reacts. With me, even a small remark which is illogical for him gets an angry reaction. I have seen his dad behaving exactly the same way. I am considering separating because I do not want child to see this behaviour growing up but DH justifies saying, DH is not beating me up etc and I am being dramatic. But I do not want to put up with this mental agony each time we fight which is at least 1 in 4 days. Any help is great ladies! Thanks so much.
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