To wonder how I can get DH to understand how tired I am?

[Nowimustfly]

Young baby, still waking in the night, older child - at preschool but still takes a lot of time.

I am so, so tired and DH doesn’t get it, at all, he wants sex and my exhaustion just doesn’t seem important. I’m so fed up of it.

What’s he doing to alleviate your tiredness?

Tell him he needs to get up with the baby and you get some sleep, maybe then he’ll get it, how very unattractive of him pestering for sex when it sounds like he’s doing next to nothing in relation to parenting.

How much does he do with the kids? Dh and I were both exhausted with the baby because we took it in turns to get up.

Announce next week is your week off. You will meet him next Sunday for a rampant session after a week's sleep catch up...

He does do stuff with the kids but it’s me who does the night wakings so I have that to deal with. I don’t know. Just feeling really low about it today.

How blunt are you being?

Have you said 'I'm fucking exhausted, obviously, why are you incapable of understanding this? I'm thinking of speaking to a divorce lawyer about your unreasonable behaviour.'

Sometimes you have to be clear you're angry, rather than asking nicely.

I know and I should be a lot blunter. I’m just so fed up and worn down. Starting to feel like a giant arse and pair of tits and nothing more.

Send him some facts about lack of sleep damage...

Next time baby wakes in the middle of the night, place him on DHs chest and tell him to deal with it. Remind him in the morning that the sexy train is closed until he wakes up with the baby 1/2 the nights.