a soup dilemma

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I am trying to eat healthy so I often cook a batch of soup to have for lunches. My MIL will often say 'Ooh, what kind of soup is that? it looks delicious' etc, which is fine.

The problem is, I have cooked soup in the past for MIL, and she has gagged on it and refused to eat it, refused to ever have the soup again or even flat out said 'I can't eat this' when I give her the bowl without even trying it.

I don't want to be an inconsiderate arsehole and not share my cooking with others but at the same time I can't go through the drama of being afraid of someone refusing to eat it (MIL has other food issues too). If she wasn't a picky eater and didn't have these issues I would happily share. I just can't handle the gagging.

WWYD? So far I am just changing the subject when I'm reheating the soup and she expresses interest. But I don't want to be a selfish cow.

Why does she need to know you are making soup? Don't talk about your soup to hrr, next time you drop in pck a few tins of soup she does like in your bag. Guilt free enjoyment of soup making can continue.

My adult daughter will only eat soup if it's blended, otherwise she gags.

Plan visits outside of mealtimes. Save yourself a lot of angst.

If she’s around when you’re having lunch then she’s probably just making conversation. If you know she’s unlikely to actually eat the soup then I’d just say ‘it’s pumpkin and lentil, would you like some or I can make you a cheese sandwich (or whatever it is that you know she likes)?’

Thank you for the replies. Not trying to drip-feed- I should have said we live together, so we share a kitchen, hence the issue.

I do blend the soup. I do understand that some people have textural sensory issues, which is beyond their control.

I don't really understand what the dilemma is. Are you expected to cook for her? Does she wasn't to try some? Have you only made enough for yourself?

She’s an adult. It’s not up to you to second guess her ‘food choices’ . If you live together, you have to accommodate each other’s tastes and preferences, within health boundaries such as allergies.. That’s a two way street.

if she says it looks or smells nice, just smile and say ‘ thank you’.

Make a joke about it, even though it won’t actually be funny.

She asks what soup you’re having, you say oh it’s tomato but we all know you can’t cope with my home made soups haha

I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps she's realised in the past she's been a bit rude about your soups and wants to make it up to you now?

I'd give her some again and if she did it again I'd go down the jokey route as suggested by @FloweryName

Presumably there's a bunch of foods you know she doesn't like. Just say, 'Oh sorry MIL, you won't like it, it's got mushrooms/chilli/whatever' in it (even if it doesn't).