To want to book the bigger room?

[Jelllytot]

DH and I are going away with 7 month old DC for a staycation this weekend. It was all very last minute and booked literally yesterday. It will be our first trip as a trio (and much needed!)

DH and I think different rooms.would.be nicer. Both rooms cost the same. One is a suite with two rooms, the other is a smaller room with a hot tub.

When I looked at this place, I was initially looking at a "suite" where there is a separate living area to the bedroom so DH and I could at least speak without whispering while DC sleeps (also friends who have been away with their babies say their top tip would be to either stay in an aparthotel or hotel with more than one room (or at least a big room). Anyway, I looked at the prices and felt like it was too dear so told DH let's book it for another time when it's not so last minute and will hopefully be a bit cheaper..

DH wanted to surprise me and so booked it anyway. But he booked a regular room but with a hot tub on the terrace. The hotel then messaged him to say they noticed he requested a cot, and with a cot in the room there would barely be any floor space and would we prefer to still go ahead with that room. I feel like that's going to be nightmarish with a 7 month old for 3 days. And also I just wanted a cosy time inside and not really fancying going out with not much on for the hot tub.

I told DH, if the two options cost the same I'd prefer the bigger room as the selling point for the other room is a hot tub outside, I just don't feel like it's the weather for it. And also with DC she sleeps at around 9pm for the night and I just feel like it'll be cold and not really worth it.

DH has asked me to stop complaining and that it might not be as bad as I am anticipating.

AIBU?

I love a hot tub but I also think a separate space for baby is more useful here. If the hotel think it's going to be too cramped then it probably will be! Would you even be able to watch TV of an evening with baby trying to sleep in same room?

24sqm is not a small room? Thats almost 5 x 5m. Why won't it fit a cot and a bed? My bedroom is 4 x 4 and fits a cot easily with a king sized bed.

65sqm is the size of my first london 2 bed apartment with separate kitchen, large living room, bathroom, ensuite & 2 double bedrooms.

I'm with your DH on this one. If you had one or two older kids who needed their own room maybe but there's plenty of room in a 24 sqm room for a cot & a bed.

I did think that about the size of the room too. But I wonder if the bathroom size is included in that in order for them to say there won't be any floor space.

I’d honestly pick your battles. It’s only 3 nights. If it’s truly awful you can change for the bigger room once you’re there. If not, DH will know to go for a bigger room next time you travel. Try not to get too worked up about the room or it’ll ruin the weekend away for all of you.

Hopefully this thread will help your DH see sense. Realistically staying in a hotel room with a small baby - what does he actually think you'll do once the baby goes to sleep? (Especially if the cot then barely fits in the room). Even if the weather were nicer the two rooms just make so much more sense.

Ok this clinched it - your birthday, your choice. Otherwise I just wouldn't go.

Really not trying to sound patronising, but have you stayed in a hotel with a baby before? Realistically how much time will you spend in the hot tub?

I learned the hard way when we finally got the baby to sleep that we had to hang out in the bathroom as we couldn't have the lights on.

Separate rooms makes things so much easier.

Your husband is being a selfish arse and only thinking of himself.
What if you agree to the smaller room and your baby struggles to settle, so the hot tub wouldn't be used anyway.
And if you did get in the hot tub, would you even be able to relax knowing baby was so close by and you had to keep your voices to a whisper etc?
Also, it's for your birthday!!!! It's not going to be very enjoyable if you're miserable stuck in one room!
Tell him to start thinking of his family and not his dick.

Well if he wants sex that's a lot more likely if baby is sleeping in another room.

The bigger room would be good. Baby can sleep and then you can sit in the bedroom, have a glass of wine and watch something on your ipad

He needs to listen to the hotel, they know it's an issue.

I also don't really get how the hot tub has anything to do with him wanting sex.

More likely he just wants to relax and feel like an adult.

24 would be for the whole space including bathroom and it also might be an appropriate calculation like EAs do. I would listen hotel’s advice they probably asked you because of previous experiences.

I think your DH would get much better chance to seduce you in a separate room. One room for everyone is a nightmare.

We've got the bigger room, thanks everyone!

DH was initially a bit unhappy but he's fine with it now. He said he was annoyed at himself that he didn't read my cues well enough ie
"It will be too cold for a hot tub"
"It's raining all weekend"
"All the advice I've read about going away with a baby says two adjoining rooms would be better than a small one"...

He said I will need to be more explicit and say "can you change the booking from hot tub room to bigger room" and "maybe it's his autism".
He does not have autism. But sometimes I do suspect he might be a bit on the spectrum.