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To cheat on my hairdresser

13 replies

Spudsmum1 · 27/10/2023 16:04

Back ground: for about 10 years I box dyed my hair mostly dark/ red/ purple colours. In a moment of madness about 5 years ago, I stripped my hair and dyed it light it didn’t look great but looked ok and one of my friends, a hairdresser offered to fix it for me.
& I’ve been blonde or thereabouts ever since.

For the last 5 years I’ve been going to her exclusively (bar lockdown in which I unsuccessfully switched to box dyes again) she is self employed & always given me friends and family discount and has cut and coloured my hair nicely.

However the price has slowly crept from £50 to now £140 for each appointment. I’m fully aware of the reasons why, she’s now in a better salon/ chair, inflation, paying for experience etc etc.

However my mum who has a similar hair colour to me recently got her hair coloured by a local, much less fancy salon and paid full price with no discount and it cost her £90 and he hair looked lovely.

If my hairdresser wasn’t my friend (albeit from a wider circle) I’d move to this new salon in a heartbeat. However I feel almost a sense of guilt for cheating on my current hairdresser and will inevitably bump into her at social events and she’ll see I’ve had my hair done.

so

YABU - save some pennies for the same result

or

YANBU - your hairdresser is a friend and I should be supporting her business instead of looking elsewhere for a saving.

OP posts:
Lizzim18 · 27/10/2023 16:23

Go try the other salon, if your hair is as good then I’d move.

I like my current hairdresser but cheat on her occasionally with another salon if I can’t get the appointment I want.

OutsideEveryday · 27/10/2023 16:24

Save some pennies for the same result, OP. Everyone whether relatively rich or relatively poor is experiencing cost of living crisis at the moment and we’re all feeling the effects of it. you don’t have any obligation to just go to her for haircuts and if she asks anything you can be honest and say the money was just not there. If she’s a true friend she will understand.

Housechat · 27/10/2023 16:29

Your friend has had to increase her prices due to rising costs and you have had to find somewhere cheaper due to rising costs, that’s life really. How much is the discount?

I wouldn’t worry about it, even if it causes a bit of awkwardness at a function every now and again.

Dibble135 · 27/10/2023 16:33

I’m in a similar position except mine has stopped doing weekends and I struggle to get there in the week because of work and distance. I actually had my hair done elsewhere this week and am happy but she keeps chasing me to book in and I keep making excuses when I should just be honest…argh!!!!

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 27/10/2023 16:37

Move hairdresser. Also, hate to say this, but your hairdresser isn’t a friend and you shouldn’t develop this sort of relationship with them (from bitter experience).

Housechat · 27/10/2023 16:44

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 27/10/2023 16:37

Move hairdresser. Also, hate to say this, but your hairdresser isn’t a friend and you shouldn’t develop this sort of relationship with them (from bitter experience).

I think the hairdresser was the OP’s friend before she started doing her hair.

Itsalwaysthelasttime · 27/10/2023 16:45

If shes giving you discount she might be relieved if you leave. A full price persin coukd take that slot.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 27/10/2023 16:48

Housechat · 27/10/2023 16:44

I think the hairdresser was the OP’s friend before she started doing her hair.

But in that case, if it were me, OP can stay friendly but still move hairdresser or say to current one, I don’t think you doing my hair and us being friends works as it changes the friendship dynamic.

Spudsmum1 · 27/10/2023 16:51

I think the discount is 20% although in truth I don’t know what’s changed over time her prices or the discount as maybe so many of her clients are friends and family she’s had to change the discount.

Yea I’m thinking at least try the new salon the worst that’ll happen is I’ll have to go back grovelling but £50 is £50.

I guess I’m also a bit worried as she is a really confrontational person and I’m not so if she pulled me up on going elsewhere I’d be totally flustered.

OP posts:
CranfordScones · 27/10/2023 16:51

You don't owe anyone your ongoing custom. If you see her at events, be honest - "I just couldn't justify what I was spending on my hair" - she'll understand, she's seen/heard it before. It's not personal.

CherryBlossom321 · 27/10/2023 16:54

You don’t owe her your business. If you can get the same result for a lower price, it’s a no-brainer. If she’s truly your friend, it won’t be an issue.

Katrinawaves · 27/10/2023 16:57

The best way not to get flustered is to work out a script in advance and learn it.

You could perhaps go with a version of Cranford Scones but soften a bit. “I couldn’t justify what I was spending on my hair. I don’t like it as much as when you did it, but needs must” (even if you love the new look, that might draw the sting!)

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 27/10/2023 18:43

Agreed with others “couldn’t justify what I was spending on my hair” but if she’s confrontational over it, I’d probably be dialling back the friendship.

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