This isn't an AIBU, but I don't know what it is. A life-long, physical illness has left me miles behind my peers. I'm 40 and have achieved small things but my life is very far from how I envisioned it in terms of relationship, children, work, social life. Even now I spend most of my time ill. This isn't intended as a pity fest and - please, as well-intentioned as they are - I don't want similar tales of sadness. I want actual advice on how to improve things, knowing I can't jet off, have children etc. I appreciate this is vague but necessity etc. There must be people in similar circumstances who've found peace, not having got what they desperately hoped for and having already missed many milestones. Thank you.