Anyone work in a nursery know if nursery staff have access to this information?

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Would a nursery know I don’t have a partner by having access to my tax free childcare application/account?

Pretty sure the nursery only receive the code they need to claim the money from the government, not your actual circumstances.

No. Why are you concerned about this?

Don’t you provide the nursery with both parents’ details?

I don't think they'd have access to that information, but they could of course find out/correctly assume you don't have a partner from more general information.

No they don't have access to this information. However if you are concealing a partner for benefit reasons I'd be very carful because it's not hard for this to come out. Your child could say something, with social media people tend to know someone you know, if something happens to you and you need help it will be obvious that you are being supported by a partner. Everything comes out eventually.

@Sheselectric22 no im not doing that. Just didn’t want them to know I was a single parent. I know I need to tell them.

You don't have to tell them it's non of their business.

Yes. They know about the children they care for. That includes their families too.

Will you have another contact for them? Is their dad involved, does he have PR? Are there safeguarding concerns?

They need to know about your child’s circumstances for their welfare.

Even when they are tiny there will be a lot of chat about who they live with, making Father’s Day cards ect. IME they’re really good about being sensitive when they need to…. But if they don’t know, they can’t be.

Id be amazed if nursery don’t ask who the child lives with / who has PR before they start. Unless you lie (don’t do that) it’s going to be pretty obvious.

But they won’t care until the slightest!

Why? Its nothing to be ashamed of.

Every nursery my kids have attended (three) have asked for a family photo each year to put on the wall.

Plus asked for names or even photos of anyone who might do pick-up (parents and grandparents).

Plus had to fill in a long form including details of both parents, who the child
lives with, and a section about all the “important” people in their life.

You can’t conceal the fact you’re a single parent. Why would you want to?

It’s weird to keep it a secret Imo. A huge part of nursery is pastoral care. When they are learning about families, talking about home life and doing drawings for people at home it’s actually preferable for them to know.

With my DD's nursery, they needed to know about home circumstances so they can support the child appropriately. E.g. if there is no father/ father figure on the scene then they would do an alternative craft when making father's day cards. They would know what names to include on cards to send home.
Also kids talk so when a bit older then they'll tell them everything anyway.
Why don't you want them to know?

Why don’t you want them to know?

Knowing who lives at home is important for a nursery. They talk to the children about their families. It’s not judgemental.

@CaptainMyCaptain no it's not. I was one myself.

I have worked at nurseries in the past and sometimes we didn't know such things and only did cards addressed to special people instead of mother or father. I have recently worked with lots of nurseries and sometimes they didn't know mum was single or had a new partner. They just knew who could pick up. If op doesn't want to share this it's fine

Would be confusing (or annoying as they get older) to have staff making a kid do things for Fathers' Day or talking about Daddies, etc, if they don't have one.

Used to piss me off once I went to school, at any rate. And even more so my older half siblings, as they were pre-teen/teens when he died. 'I'll be contacting your father about this'. 'Good luck with that'.