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Sweeetpea97 · 27/10/2023 02:55

I’ve had a really bad night and I can’t sleep. My nerves are bad. Single parent with one daughter. I was finally falling asleep and thought I heard a loud noise but it stopped quickly. I don’t know if I was imagining it but now I’m scared and I probably won’t sleep all night

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ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs · 27/10/2023 02:59

Sometimes when I am falling asleep I "hear" noises that aren't real . Happens a lot! Maybe auditory dreams?

Robotik · 27/10/2023 03:01

I do too. I’ve heard people say my name too! Why don’t you get up and check the house with a torch or a light on. Check the doors are locked. Then you know whatever you heard isn’t dangerous and you can relax

Sweeetpea97 · 27/10/2023 03:02

Thanks. I’m wondering if it’s that. Now I’m listening out for noises and I feel frightened. It was like a banging noise

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Robotik · 27/10/2023 03:03

Get up and check around, it’s the only way to alleviate your fears. Are you in a house, a flat?

MrsMorseEndeavour · 27/10/2023 03:08

Hi OP. I often hearing a knocking/banging sound when I'm drifting off. Sounds like someone knocking on the door. It's quite common especially if you're tired/stressed. Quick look about then try and sleep or you'll be no good in the morning

Sweeetpea97 · 27/10/2023 03:08

A house. Thank you, I’ll go and do that just so I can relax. I haven’t slept at all yet and Im really tired but I feel on high alert now. I do get anxious with it just being me and my daughter here

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Robotik · 27/10/2023 03:11

Let us know you’re okay when you’ve done it, and then maybe try some breathing excercises to help you relax. I used to do night shifts and everything is so so much worse when you’re over tired, I used to get jumpy and feel weird too.

LadyBird1973 · 27/10/2023 03:19

Houses do make lots of noises. If I can't sleep I get up and make a cup of tea and try again in half an hour - lying awake and stressing won't help you relax.
I've been known to get up and check the house when I hear something odd and once o know it's okay, can go back to sleep.

Sweeetpea97 · 27/10/2023 03:23

I’ve just had a look and everything’s ok. Yes I’ve definitely been feeling more on edge because I’m so tired. My heart rate was high. I’ve had quite a lot on recently too and have been struggling to switch off. Thank you all for commenting

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SwiftieGrainger · 27/10/2023 03:27

I'm awake OP- beetroot juice or tart cherry juice before bed in future. It's completely natural and always knows me out. Alternatively vicks on the soles of your feet for a sound sleep. I get this when I'm run down

SwiftieGrainger · 27/10/2023 03:28

Knocks me out**

WednesdaysChild50 · 27/10/2023 04:02

Put a podcast on OP, something lighthearted

MavisMcMinty · 27/10/2023 04:12

There’s a river that borders my garden, and when I’m in bed it sounds like someone’s playing a radio somewhere in the house, guitar metal mainly.

My Mum was tormented for years by the sound of someone in a neighbouring garden digging a grave on stony soil. Only when her alarm clock battery died did she realise it was the hard “ch ch ch” ticking of the clock that had been keeping her awake at night.

Toddler101 · 27/10/2023 04:24

ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs · 27/10/2023 02:59

Sometimes when I am falling asleep I "hear" noises that aren't real . Happens a lot! Maybe auditory dreams?

Is this really a thing? If so it explains a lot for me!

OP, my DH is away a lot and in home alone with our 3y and our 6m old - I'm constantly on high alert at night for at least the first 2 nights. It's exhausting! I definitely tune in to so many sounds more so when he's away. Glad you've checked and all is clear. Close your eyes, draw shapes with your eyes slowly and breathe deeply and hopefully you'll drift back off...

bungletru · 27/10/2023 04:44

Feel for you. This happens to me a lot too.
especially since I was pregnant!
fears heighten. Every noise sounds like a break in, but it’s not.
try and distract. I tend to meditate when it happens to calm down.
xx

GlitterGlobe30 · 27/10/2023 07:17

Hope you managed to get some sleep OP Flowers

AnaisMae · 27/10/2023 08:43

Is your house alarmed? Ring doorbell? Anything like that? Having these things is the only reason i get a good sleep at night as I know one of them will alert me if someone's there.

FrazzledDragon · 27/10/2023 08:46

If you can afford it, invest in a security kit - there's usually some really good deals on Black Friday. I'm also a single parent and struggled with this for a while before getting a Ring set - door alarms, motion sensors, and camera. I've since added a couple more cameras, which is great for those nights when you hear a noise and can quickly check without the terror or having to get up and explore the house. The peace of mind is priceless.

Bobbotgegrinch · 27/10/2023 09:19

Toddler101 · 27/10/2023 04:24

Is this really a thing? If so it explains a lot for me!

OP, my DH is away a lot and in home alone with our 3y and our 6m old - I'm constantly on high alert at night for at least the first 2 nights. It's exhausting! I definitely tune in to so many sounds more so when he's away. Glad you've checked and all is clear. Close your eyes, draw shapes with your eyes slowly and breathe deeply and hopefully you'll drift back off...

Yep, they're called hynogogic hallucinations, and happen during the first stage of sleep, when you're dropping off.

KimberleyClark · 27/10/2023 09:21

Sounds like this

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Exploding_head_syndrome

despite the name it’s nothing to worry about!

Exploding head syndrome - Wikipedia

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Exploding_head_syndrome

Toddler101 · 27/10/2023 21:41

Well I feel educated now, thanks for sharing! 🤓 @Bobbotgegrinch @KimberleyClark @ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs

Georgeandzippyzoo · 27/10/2023 21:51

If you Google hypnagogic hallucinations it explains lots of this.

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What Is Hypnagogia, the State Between Wakefulness and Sleep?Medically reviewed by Raj Dasgupta, MD — By Daniel Yetman on October 26, 2020

Hypnagogia is the transitional state of consciousness between wakefulness and sleep. It’s the opposite of hypnopompia, which is the transitional state that occurs before you wake up.

During hypnagogia, it’s common to experience involuntary and imagined experiences. These are referred to as hypnagogic hallucinations. Up to 70 percent
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of people experience these hallucinations, which can appear in the form of sights, sounds, or even feelings of movement.

Muscle jerks, sleep paralysis, and lucid dreams are also common during the hypnagogic phase.

Let’s break down the science behind hypnagogia, examine what you may experience during this state, and look at why some of the world’s most famous thinkers have tried to induce it.

How the hypnagogic state of consciousness occurs

Neurons in your brain communicate with each other through bursts of electrical activity. This electrical activity can be measured in waves with a machine, called an electroencephalogram (EEG).

An EEG can measure five types of brain waves. From slowest to fastest, these waves are called:

delta waves
theta waves
alpha waves
beta waves
gamma waves

When you’re awake, your brain produces measurable alpha and beta waves, with beta waves being predominant. Once you become drowsy, alpha waves take over.

Stage one is the lightest form of sleep and typically lasts for between 1 minute and 5 minutes. During this stage, alpha waves drop to less than 50 percent
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of your total brain waves and researchers can observe ripples of slower theta waves.

Hypnagogia occurs during the transitional period of wakefulness to sleep, when alpha waves are decreasing but you haven’t yet reached the first stage of sleep.

During this period, your sense of “here” and “now” transitions from the real world to the dream world. When this happens, people commonly experience:

hallucinations
lucid dreaming
body jerks
sleep paralysis

We’ll discuss each of these experiences in more detail below.

Effects of hypnagogia on your body

During hypnagogia, you start to lose touch with reality as your body prepares to enter sleep. The following are some of the most common effects you may experience.

Hypnagogic hallucinations

French psychiatrist Jules-Gabriel-Francois Baillarger first described hypnagogic hallucinations in the 1840s.

Hypnagogic hallucinations are imaginary events that seem real as you’re on the cusp of falling asleep. Usually, these hallucinations are visual, auditory, or tactile. However, they can also involve your other senses and feelings of movement.

They most often occur in young adults and teenagers and become less common with age. Women are more likely to experience these hallucinations than men.

It’s not clear what causes these hallucinations, but some risk factors include:

alcohol or recreational drug use
insomnia
stress and anxiety
narcolepsy
bipolar disorder
depression
Visual hallucinations

In about 86 percent of cases, hypnagogic hallucinations involve visual stimuli. Some of the ways visual hallucinations can manifest include:

kaleidoscopes of changing colors
the appearance of random geometric patterns
flashing lights
images of people, animals, or faces
Auditory hallucinations

About 8 to 34 percent of hypnagogic hallucinations involve sounds. These sounds can range from faint noises to loud crashes or bangs. Some of the forms they may appear in include:

voices or words
music
phone ringing
doorbell sounds
your name

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