I haven't read all the posts but just going to throw my experience in.
As the mum of a SEN child, diagnosed autistic, and suspected ADHD, he has an EHCP and I can tell you that there is a huge SEN reform movement, with protests etc but it hasn't got much publicity because being honest, no one outside of SEN parents really care. Also the government are trying to cut EHCP awards by 20% so that will mean more SEN children without support and in mainstream schools.
My son needs a SEN school. He is currently in mainstream. He will have to have one for secondary school because he will not be able to cope or get there, so we are starting to apply now (he's yr2) so that we can get a space by the time he needs it (yr 7), because they are so oversubscribed. Government have promised more SEN schools. They haven't materialised. These conditions are far more widely recognised now. We need more SEN schools. But we also need parents of NT children to care and push with us to get these.
What parents of neurotypical children need to understand is that the more SEN children that are forced into mainstream settings where their needs are not being met is, that teachers will have far more time taken up by these children and it will detract from everyone's learning.
My child attends but he is not learning. His EHCP states is needs an individual tailored curriculum, so that he can excel at the things he is good at (maths and science) and get help with the things he isn't as well as assess him in ways that he will do. Mainstream cannot accommodate this. For the year 1 phonics test, he wouldn't sit and complete it, so he has been put down as 'cannot read'. He can. Fluently. But because he cannot be assessed in a mainstream, they have essentially said he can't do X y and z. He can. The school are lovely. They are bound by the rules and assessment regulations. The sendco is wonderful. They are supportive and helped enormously with our EHCP. But mainstream is not the place for him. I have two NT children so I know both sides of the coin.
But according to one Kent Tory councillor, having an EHCP is 'the in thing to do for parents nowadays'.
Yeah absolutely. It's absolutely the in thing to have a disabled and/or SEN child and need extra support for them. We all planned it, because we thought it sounded like an absolute hoot, rather than the soul crushing, horrific, stressful and downright agonising process it actually is.
Fun fact, my son was diagnosed ASD before we applied for the EHCP. Full reports. From paeds, ed psychs the lot. SENDCO said it was one of the strongest applications she'd ever put in. They still declined us first time 'because his condition may have improved in the six months since the ed psych report'. It was immediately approved upon appeal. Most are turned down first time and over 90% are won on appeal. They just want to grind the parents down so they don't have to fund an EHCP.
I honestly feel totally invisible most of the time. No one cares and in fact most people tut and make unhelpful comments about how my child cannot possibly be disabled, I just need to give him a good smack.