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Is it just me? Lazy thread.....

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sunshinewithrain · 26/10/2023 21:23

So to preserve my mental health, to relax , to just be ok:...... I once in a blue moon have a day where I get up at 5 and shower get ready to take lg to nursery but as it's my day off cos I've worked the weekend I then come home and do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!! I lay on my bed or my sofa, I drift in and out of sleep🤣 3pm comes and I do do house jobs cos I realise I'll never get them done if I don't!
BUT MY POINT IS...... does it really matter if I like to do this! My DP gets so angry but he's off doing stuff and I'm not hurting any one!
Does anyone else do this! Xxx

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Sofaz34 · 26/10/2023 21:26

Yes you do you with your time off. You could go out and do something active but how's that any different from actively choosing to do nothing x

Stressedgiraffe · 26/10/2023 21:29

Sounds lovely! Enjoy it.
I've taken every Friday off in Nov ( need to use up holiday time) and am planning on doing nothing. Maybe go for lunch out but no housework etc. Really looking forward to it.

HundredMilesAnHour · 26/10/2023 21:31

Yes, I need days like that as I have chronic fatigue so need to rest more. Drives me mad as I used to be really active but now I need a day every week or so where I just loll around and lie on the sofa or nap on and off and just watch TV. It feels lazy but the next day I really feel the benefit and am much more energised.

TheOwlChronicles · 26/10/2023 21:31

Tell your partner to fuck off. What's it got to do with him what you do with your own time? You could spend it standing on your head if you want to -- nothing to do with him or anyone else

Woahtherehoney · 26/10/2023 21:34

Omg I’d love a day like this! I have every other Friday off as I work a 9 day fortnight and so I take DSS to school and then do all the housework so I don’t have to at the weekend but might use the odd one to just relax - sounds perfect!

Merryoldgoat · 26/10/2023 21:37

Why does your partner get angry?

Gerrataere · 26/10/2023 21:52

This is why I’m single. I do this every Saturday afternoon/Sunday morning that the children are at their dads. Spend the Sat morning/lunchtime doing shopping/housework/gym (before I got an injury). Then I do a grand lot of fuck all from about 3pm Sat until lunchtime Sunday.
Some Sundays I sleep until 10am then order a McDonalds breakfast in to soak up the wine and curry from the night before. No one to ‘get angry’ with me, my house is clean enough and the washing is always done. If I choose to live like a feckless teen on my own time then 🖕 to anyone who has a negative opinion. I’m sure this type of life will be added to the ‘why are women so awful these days’ type threads but having stress free moments is absolutely the key to happiness.

Evaka · 26/10/2023 21:57

Gerrataere · 26/10/2023 21:52

This is why I’m single. I do this every Saturday afternoon/Sunday morning that the children are at their dads. Spend the Sat morning/lunchtime doing shopping/housework/gym (before I got an injury). Then I do a grand lot of fuck all from about 3pm Sat until lunchtime Sunday.
Some Sundays I sleep until 10am then order a McDonalds breakfast in to soak up the wine and curry from the night before. No one to ‘get angry’ with me, my house is clean enough and the washing is always done. If I choose to live like a feckless teen on my own time then 🖕 to anyone who has a negative opinion. I’m sure this type of life will be added to the ‘why are women so awful these days’ type threads but having stress free moments is absolutely the key to happiness.

You mean why are women so awesome these days. You are a legend.

Riverlee · 26/10/2023 21:58

We all need a duvet day every so often.

cheeseandsaladcreamtoastie · 26/10/2023 22:09

Gerrataere · 26/10/2023 21:52

This is why I’m single. I do this every Saturday afternoon/Sunday morning that the children are at their dads. Spend the Sat morning/lunchtime doing shopping/housework/gym (before I got an injury). Then I do a grand lot of fuck all from about 3pm Sat until lunchtime Sunday.
Some Sundays I sleep until 10am then order a McDonalds breakfast in to soak up the wine and curry from the night before. No one to ‘get angry’ with me, my house is clean enough and the washing is always done. If I choose to live like a feckless teen on my own time then 🖕 to anyone who has a negative opinion. I’m sure this type of life will be added to the ‘why are women so awful these days’ type threads but having stress free moments is absolutely the key to happiness.

I could have written this myself! Love love love having time to myself and it was the only thing that kept me going after my exH left me and behaved abominably for years. I call it my 'party for one' time 🤣

Gerrataere · 26/10/2023 22:10

Evaka · 26/10/2023 21:57

You mean why are women so awesome these days. You are a legend.

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Thanks 😁. Seriously, I advise any and every woman to find time to say ‘fuck it’. Sit yourself down, don’t bloody move for a few hours. You don’t always owe something to life, you don’t have to justify your downtime to anyone - including yourself. Sod angry men, sod expectations.

Palacelife · 26/10/2023 22:12

I worked like a lunatic for years, never resting even at weekends.

I ended up with physical fatigue and completely burned out, it’s taken me so long to recover.

rest is so important! Protect your rest days xx

Searchingforaunicorn · 26/10/2023 22:12

Doing fuck all is my absolute most favourite thing in the world to do!

Fill your boots. Enjoy it! DP needs to let this one go!

MuggleMe · 26/10/2023 22:16

I have every Friday off now my girls are school age. My eldest has additional needs and my DH has chronic illness. I mix them up, naps, walks with friends, decluttering, chores. I love them and I don't feel guilty.

Britneyfan · 26/10/2023 22:16

@Gerrataere 🤣I am so with you! I am also a single mother, my son doesn’t go to his dad’s anymore but he is a late teen now and able to get his own breakfast if needed etc. I do very little at the weekends also and definitely have lie-ins like a teenager! (I don’t even do the grocery shopping unless you count have it delivered 🤣 that’s far too much effort!) My teenage boy and I have very similar body clocks and so it works for us haha. We tend to emerge from our pits around the same time and also go to bed late! He is quite a homebody so I don’t feel too bad just pottering around at home most of the time when I’m not at work. My work is super intense and stressful when I’m there so I do feel I need the downtime on my days off!

I would like to find a partner but do worry that if I did he might find me lazy and want me to get up “early” on a Saturday morning to go for a run or something 🤣

theduchessofspork · 26/10/2023 22:18

Actively choosing to rest is very important

Tell him to try meditation and smile serenely

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