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To ask for help formulating an email to school about bullying

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Whatamidoinhere · 26/10/2023 20:44

Posting for traffic. I'm seeing red right now and need some help.

My 7 year old has all of the sudden become hard work. The past few weeks his mood has been really low, he tantrums at the drop of the hat, and developed nervous ticks. I've been trying to figure out what's going on and tonight he finally told me.

2 of his classmates have been bullying him for weeks. We had issues last year with one of them but I thought it was dealt with. Now it seems to have gotten worse since that kid found another kid to join him in his act. Examples of bullying are:

  • One of them poked my child in the eye and when my child told the teacher the 2 "bullies" said no he didn't do it. Then they teased ds about the teacher not believing him.
  • Making fun of a distinctive feature in his face.
  • Following him around and whispering names in his ear. "You're stupid, annoying, poo...etc"
  • Snatching what he's playing with during playtime and throwing it around.

I'm really upset for him, he's empathetic and introverted and still hasn't quite learned how to stand up for himself.

Now English is not my first language, and I need help with how to word my email to school so that it's taken seriously. I'd be very thankful if someone gives me an example of what I should write, as my formal English is not that great.

Also, I'd appreciate any advice from those who've been through the same experience with their children. Thanks.

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Ella31 · 26/10/2023 20:54

I wouldn't email. I'd ring the school abd request face to face meeting with teacher and principal. If you email, you are giving the school a chance to deny or argue against it. I'm a teacher myself and if it was me I'd prefer to speak face to face.

Whatamidoinhere · 26/10/2023 21:01

@Ella31 Thanks, I'll call them in the morning. I'll tell them about the incidents and ask them what steps school can take to stop the bullying. Any more points I can add to ensure it's taken seriously?

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CoffeeBeansGalore · 26/10/2023 21:19

Also ask for a copy of the bullying policy. Things should be agreed during the meeting. You can see if they are following their own policies.

It is their responsibility to keep your child safe in school. He has been physically assulted.
This is a safeguarding issue.

He is being verbally bullied. He is being targeted because of a facial feature. The teacher is not believing him. This needs to be addressed.

Key words to emphasize:

Bullying
Safeguarding
Assault
Targeted because of a facial feature

Make notes & take them with you so you don't forget anything you want to say.

Ask for the meeting to be written up & a copy emailed to you. You then have a written trail to refer back to if needed.

trippinthru · 26/10/2023 21:45

Also ask for a copy of the bullying policy

@Whatamidoinhere this will be on the school website - it is a statutory publication.

Don't criticise the teacher - you need to keep her onside. Be objective and factual.

user1496146479 · 26/10/2023 21:53

I would go into school/call them.
Have the list of all incidents written down to help you stay on track. Keep it factual.
Review bullying policy

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