Is it OK or not to email therapist to ask this?

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I just had an appointment. The therapist brought up finishing therapy, how it was a good idea when I did finish to have a couple of sessions for I guess closure. That's fine but I am interpreting the wider picture as she thinks I should be finishing soon? As in, should only have a couple more sessions?

I don't know now if I will have a therapist in a few weeks time, and I don't know if I need to start looking for a new one?

Should I email to ask to clarify if we are wrapping things up? I don't email unless for admin like booking appointments.

It all feels weird now and don't know what to do.

Surely if she was talking about ending therapy she meant you stopping therapy altogether, not that you should go and find a new therapist?

Unless it's time limited therapy really you should be the one to decide when you are ready to end. It's fine fir a therapist to challenge you if they feel you are ready but you haven't realised it but they shouldn't decide for you.

Hi op sorry to hear you are feeling somewhat unsettled by the prospect of ending with your therapist.

Aside from the issues of institutional restrictions, therapists can and will suggest ending with a client if they no longer feel the client is benefiting from the sessions as agreed. It would be unethical to take money for a service that you are both only paying lip service to.

What issue or presenting problem did you contract around? Bereavement? If so are your sessions used accordingly or are they used discussing other issues? Relationships/work/cost of living etc.

Is there a block, something that you aren’t saying, aren’t open to yet? This is likely to be way more apparent to your therapist than you yourself. So, trust their judgement on this one. It might be that you are just not ready yet. An example of this might be ‘blame’ a client who blames others for their feelings and responses, is not ready to look inwards to make the growth needed for meaningful change.

Attachment style: are your reasons for wanting to stay with your therapist more to do with the anxiety of separation from them, than because the service they are providing you is having some clear benefits. Your worry about sending them your question and appearing too needy give a little indication that this may be the case. Again it would be unethical to work with someone purely to satisfy a maladaptive coping strategy.

Speak to them in the next session, but until then jot down what you are feeling, what activates the strongest of those emotions when they arise, if it reminds you of any other experience or time, what your thoughts or self speak are when you are feeling these things. Take all of the above with you as it will all be helpful for your therapist to know.

What if your therapist feels you've pretty much neared the end of where therapy can help?
She may have given you the tools you need, so you can go away, and apply them, day to day in real life situations?