To be V annoyed at friend???

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I was getting my DD (3) ready and she was wriggling around so i said 'stay still or youll go up to your room', my friend then said 'you do know that she's going to be an absoulute brat when shes older'!!I was so annoyed but didnt say anything to her, my DD was only doing what most children do when they dont want to get ready!!

Also for the rest of the day she kept shouing at my DD for anything and everything, like she was trying to make a point

I felt really sorry for DD and feel my friend was and is being V unreasonable

Your friend has no children. Tell her not to shout at your daughter. I have had to say this to my childless friends before. You'll only ever have to say it once.

No she has no children, but strangely is trying to get a job as a nanny!!!god help the poor child who has to out up with her

I really should have said something but i always feel weak around her, shes quite strong minded and i always feel it best to let it go

In that case I think you need to spend less time with her, or at least only get together when your dd is elsewhere.

Youre probly right WT, but im always with DD, if i had lots of other friends then i probly wouldnt bother with her but i dont

Just say "I'll deal with her, she's my daughter and I like to do things my way"

Your all right, i need to be a bit tougher next time i see her if theres a repeat performance i will definately say something

WHAT?!?! totally out of order IMO especially considering she doesn't have kids of her own.

think your friend needs a stint on the naughty step :P

Eternal- i know she can say some awful things, also last wk i mentioned that id bought a reward chart for DD and that i was going to get a bit tougher (i can be quite soft) and her reply was that its about time because the way DD behaves is all my fault!!

Think she needs to spend a week with my DD or someone elses and then maybe she wouldnt be so quick to judge!

think she sounds a bit jealous

She sounds like she thinks she knows best. You need to tell her she doesn't. (she sounds like my SIL btw)

Next time she critisises you, fix her with a calm look for a few seconds, then in a measured voice say "You seem to be finding my daughter difficult to be around - it's hard when you don't have your own, isn't it? We'll have to catch up another time when we can get some time to ourselves, and you won't feel so anxious about what (DD) is doing all the time."

fab fab fab colditz!

Grrr. How good a friend is she? If my BF criticised me, I'd take it in good part, if it was just a mate.... I'd be really pissed off

she's training to be a nanny?

perhaps she has only done half the course and only knows half of it!
how annoying..

My dad is like this (he lives abroad and only sees DD1 once a year) - in the end I said dad its not your job to discipline DD especially as you only see her once a year just leave it to me ........please...it worked

If a friend of mine said something about my dd like that I would tell her to run and jump. how dare she.
Tell her that when she learns some manners and becomes a parent that maybe you will accept her advice until then to butt out!

I would never ever shout at other people's children unless they were in danger.

agree with all your posts, think your right colditz i will have a word next time i see her