I'm at my wits end. My DH has a history of drink problems and there have been times where I needed to lean on my family, my DM and DS. I am For emotional rather than practical support as as we didn't need the practical stuff. We have 2 DC, 14 and 10. DH and I have been through marriage counselling recently.
But now a family rows has blown up mainly between DH and my family because DH asked DM to help run one of our businesses while we were on holiday. But my niece got involved and claims were underpaying DM even though agreed rate confirmed before we went away. Everything appears to have got very messy. A lot of old anger is coming out and been going around but the upshot of it is that today I discovered that my family still hold a lot of stuff against my DH. They won't let the past be in the past. DH however, is saying he's dealt with his addictions and gone through them and doesn't want to keep apologising for them. But he will if he has to! But I don't think this will be enough. How do I reconcile all my family. DH said he is prepared to get my mum and my sister in front of him and apologise again for some of the things he's done which is going back about five years ago. But I'm really concerned that my family seem to see no way out of everything, but then to me to actually split up with my DH. DH and I have had some problems but they are certainly not ones that require a divorce. My DM and DS are not in relationships and my parent's own divorce I have dealt with by going through therapy to come to terms with how sad it made me.