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Mums with one daughter

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Drivethrucoffeeplace · 23/10/2023 22:24

Does anyone notice mums with just one daughter are a certain way? Hard to explain…strong bond with their Dd usually, v strong bond and usually quite strong women, independent and good looking?
It’s all I’ve ever seen…aside from…myself 😅I have one Dd only. But it’s definitely a thing I’ve noticed with others
It got me thinking about the differences between mums of boys, girls or with a girl and boy…is there anything noticeable about them? I find it quite interesting

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ssd · 23/10/2023 22:35

Of the 2 i know...one pair seem to be having a lot of stife though i think they are too similar...and the other pair, well the mum doesn't want to let her go and be grown up and independent even though the dd is late 20s

Dramatic · 23/10/2023 22:37

I only know one pair well and their relationship is incredibly strained now the daughter is an adult (20)

ToadOnTheHill · 23/10/2023 22:40

I know one, they are lovely. I wouldnt describe them that way though. Both gentle and soft spoken, nice people.

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Drivethrucoffeeplace · 23/10/2023 22:42

That’s interesting..:could they maybe find it harder to let go/be quite dominant in the relationship? I’m thinking now of a friend of mine who is an only child/Dd and her mother

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LaviniasBigBloomers · 23/10/2023 22:42

Me and my mum were not like that at all, very separate people, a lot of love but not a particularly close bond. We were never that duo that said we were each other's best friend or spoke to each other every day.

ssd · 23/10/2023 22:45

Some mums of daughters i know sort of invest too heavily in their dds and dont let them grow up. Bring close is lovely but using your dd as a crutch is wrong

StarDolphins · 23/10/2023 22:46

I have 1 dd & I’m everything you said Apart from good looking. I used to be lovely looking but now I look like a tired scarecrow. I’m strong & independent though.

ReturnOfTheRainMac · 23/10/2023 22:57

I've been the daughter and mother in this melee. I'll take your description 😂😜

Strong bonds both ways but completely different in their nature. I think all variations are noticeable in their own way.

My mum and I were very close and it became strained once I had a daughter as I saw my childhood differently. Now she is older and causing stress as they do, I talk to my mum about it and again see my older years very differently.

Mydogmybestfriend · 23/10/2023 23:02

There's a popular meme that mums with one son are sexy and the ones with daughters are crazy.

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Drivethrucoffeeplace · 23/10/2023 23:11

@Mydogmybestfriend With one daughter? Why crazy 😅

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Siameasy · 23/10/2023 23:14

Definitely true 😆

DD and I very close. I think we have telepathy. I can read her whereas DH can’t as much (they have a lovely bond too).

Tothemoonandbackx · 23/10/2023 23:21

I'll take your description 😁😁😁 x

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Drivethrucoffeeplace · 23/10/2023 23:28

I’ve Googled crazy mums of one dd memes…can’t see any 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Splodgerbodgerbadger · 23/10/2023 23:31

I have one daughter and agree with you mostly. I’m definitely strong as we had six miscarriages before her, but good looking! Nope no way.

LoreleiG · 23/10/2023 23:36

For them all to be good looking would be a huge coincidence.

Pumpkinpuddin · 23/10/2023 23:36

I always think mums of 1 DD are posh and put together 😆 the ones I know are stylish and groomed! Not crazy x

Theunamedcat · 23/10/2023 23:41

Dd and I have a strong bond but we don't live in each others pockets and we disagree on many things we just choose to not discuss it she comes "home" often travelling 3 hours plus on public transport

my friend had one dd she left home to live with her nan she won't see her mum unless she wants something never spent a night under her mother's roof since she left when she was 12

Couldn't be more opposite experience

thaegumathteth · 23/10/2023 23:44

Drivethrucoffeeplace · 23/10/2023 23:11

@Mydogmybestfriend With one daughter? Why crazy 😅

I have a boy and a girl so not your target but I have found having a girl has driven me much closer to the brink of insanity that having a boy even though he never slept and was the fussiest eater ever.

However this could be absolutely nothing to do with them being male or female and more to do with personality type / birth order / experience efc.

JustAMinutePleass · 23/10/2023 23:48

I have 1 DS and socialise with a lot of mums with just 1 DD / DS. Some Mums of only daughters definitely try to use their child as an accessory / mini me. But on the whole I do think we tend to be the same. The strength people see is probably misogyny - mothers are more ‘visible’ when a daughter is successful / strong while dad’s tend to get the credit for sons. In reality it’s probably the opposite - Dads tend to have more influence in daughters lives and mothers in sons.

gavisconismyfriend · 23/10/2023 23:52

My experience is of a mother who is unhealthily attached to me to the extent that any relationship with anyone else sparks jealousy. I hate it. I’d give anything not to have what outsiders might see as a strong bond but I experience as handcuffs. She on the other hand thinks we have a great relationship and would describe us just as the OP does. You might see me and think I’m strong and independent and I am - because I’ve had to be to survive. So what you perceive might actually be a million miles from the truth for at least one of the people involved.

Deadringer · 23/10/2023 23:59

The only woman i know that has only one daughter is my sister, she is attractive, strong and very independent but they don't have a great relationship, they are definitely not close. Most women I know don't seem to get on well with their eldest dd, but they don't fit the criteria as they have other dc.

Justrolledmyeyesoutloud · 24/10/2023 00:45

Eek l have a dd and am trying to raise her to be self sufficient.
Good looking? Not so much lol

greyhairnomore · 24/10/2023 01:03

Two I know , complete opposite of close.

hoobanoobie · 24/10/2023 01:36

I’m a lone parent with one DD. Lost 2 other babies that could have been any gender. I am a strong woman because I've had to be due to a long background of horrendous abuse. (I have CPTSD).
I was forced to be completely independent after a certain point a couple of years ago. I take care of my appearance if I have to leave the house. If I don’t need to, I wallow at home.
I always wanted a big family so I've filled it with pets instead. 7 cats, 2 rabbits, 2 guinea pigs, 2 ferrets, 8 mice. They keep me busy day to day.
DD and I have a strong bond most of the time (ND explosive preteen)
If I’m having a very rare night out to myself then it's all me, dressed to the nines. Happens about once every two years or so.
More to your point though, I wouldn’t know wtf to do with a boy child, though I always wanted one. All of the kids in our family are female!

Arghghghghfg · 24/10/2023 01:42

Strong, independent, good looking... Yup, that's definitely me 🙋‍♀️

(Nb, that was sarcasm)