Any solicitors or social workers?

[dillydal]

I've just found out my son's father has made another application to the family court. He began making applications in 2018 when our son was three years old after having barely any contact prior. Contact was gradually increased and now has a regular pattern of EOW and one night in the week. Nevertheless, he makes applications to the court every few months with spurious allegations that I'm relocating abroad, that I shouldn't have our son's passport, that he wants amendments to the court order around our son's schooling. All very ridiculous, non-issues which aren't really the point. I think the point is about dragging me through this traumatic process as a means of control and abuse.

I got a two year barring order given the number of applications and the toll on my mental health. I was off work with stress for several months. During this time, he made four further applications all of which did not progress because of the barring order in place. This has now expired and he's made another one.

I can't cope. I've had a letter from Cafcass. I want to name this as abuse but I'm scared Cafcass nor the judge will not be impressed with this. Are there any solicitors or family court advisers / social workers who can tell me how to frame this or reassure me that professionals do get it and it looks exactly like what it is.

At 8 DS doesn’t get to dictate exactly what he wants anyway. He’s too young.

OP: are you 5/14 arrangement? I would not necessarily agree to 50/50 in the holidays as it’s more then the standard split. 2 weeks is reasonable and more in line with arrangements in the school days.

I would get representation in court. A barrister would greatly help you in this situation. There needs to be an end to court cases. Not sure if judges can be chosen by a litigant!

Apply in the same proceedings for a renewal to the barring order. Barring orders aren't made lightly by the court so it must have had good reason to make it in the first place.