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He's lying isn't he?

14 replies

Lovinthelife · 23/10/2023 06:07

My partner of 6 years joined FB dating a couple of months ago. I discovered this going through his phone (previous mistrust). He never got further on the site than a few messages. It's since been a long hard battle for me mentally with loads of heavy arguments. Then earlier today I saw in June this year he friend requested three attractive young girls on FB. None accepted and he 'has no idea how this happened '.
He's lying isn't he?

He claims to love me but this has obviously made me feel massively insecure and paranoid. I barely sleep more than two hours at a time and feel constantly stressed and ill. I'm not coping in other areas of my life as his actions have devastated me. He gets angry and denies any wrongdoing when I question him
I've told him to remove Facebook altogether but he won't.
It's over isn't it?

OP posts:
KneeQuestion · 23/10/2023 06:08

No relationship is worth losing your peace of mind.

AllAboardTootToot · 23/10/2023 06:10

Get him to hell asap!

happylittlesloth · 23/10/2023 06:12

Yeah it's over. This isn't how it's meant to be.

Catsmere · 23/10/2023 06:14

He's an oxygen thief, dump him asap.

Tusktusk · 23/10/2023 06:14

Your instincts are right. He doesn’t intend to be faithful. Even if he hadn’t made those friend requests, just being on the dating site 2 months ago is enough evidence of his intentions, isn’t it? And now he dismisses your feelings, treats you like an idiot and continually lies to protect himself. He should be begging you to forgive him. But he isn’t. He’s denying it instead.

This relationship is making you ill. Please get rid of him and heal yourself.

Normalsizedsalad · 23/10/2023 06:16

When women stop being so desperate to be in relationships and stop tolerating this type of shit behaviour, the world will change for better for all of us

CrochetedOwl · 23/10/2023 06:26

Yep he’s a knob. Throw him back into the pool and find someone who adores you or just be happier on your own. Life is too short for that shit and nobody needs a man that badly that they have to tolerate it.

CrochetedOwl · 23/10/2023 06:27

Amen to this

CrochetedOwl · 23/10/2023 06:28

Normalsizedsalad · 23/10/2023 06:16

When women stop being so desperate to be in relationships and stop tolerating this type of shit behaviour, the world will change for better for all of us

Meant Amen to this

Fatcat00 · 23/10/2023 06:44

yes it is over. And if it helps, it was a long time ago. So going through the breakup try not to look at it as something new. He’s a dog and you’re ruining your life and health by being with him. You

Frasers · 23/10/2023 07:08

Why is this even a question op. Why are you clinging on to someone uou know is proactively trying to cheat om you and lying to your face?

pinkfondu · 23/10/2023 07:08

Yes he is.

He's lying and would rather you think yourself crazy and drive yourself mad than just admit it. He's a coward!

xyz111 · 23/10/2023 07:10

You are much better than this and you know it. You need to finish this relationship now. It will never get better.

CheekyHobson · 23/10/2023 07:13

Removing Facebook won’t solve the problem as there are a million ways he can cheat.

Try removing the boyfiriend altogether.

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