Getting dh14 anger management from Doctors

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Ds14 has always been an angry child. Losing his temper at the smallest of things and as he’s got older it’s got so much worse. Apparently I’m always angry, I’m really not lol he thinks I shout, I really don’t.
Yesterday we was at the airport and he had to get his bag checked, he always stresses then talks to me like crap and it’s so embarrassing! If I tell him off he doesn’t know when to stop and just gets more wound up. He’s never smashed anything etc. his friends take the Micky that he’s moody/grumpy. He’s not bullied he says and enjoys school.

His dad who he hasn’t seen since 4 but is close to his step dad who’s been in his life since 3, had anger problems. He was in prison for attacking his mum and was abusive.

I don’t know what to do :( I’m so stressed about ir

Often it's anxiety that is underlying anger. Maybe consider requesting anxiety/ stress management rather than anger management.

Anxiety can cause people to be short tempered and shout. You said he gets easily stressed, maybe it’s all anxiety?
Although learned behaviour can also be the cause if his step dad was an angry man and he’s witnessed that a lot.

https://www.mind.org.uk/for-young-people/feelings-and-experiences/dealing-with-anger/

Young minds offer information and resources for parents too.
https://www.youngminds.org.uk/young-person/my-feelings/anger/

Wtf have I just read? You brought a man into your 3 year olds life who was in prison for attacking his own mother and you wonder why he's grown up angry? Give me strength.

I think it's just a missing comma. It's the son's ACTUAL dad, whom he's not seen since he was four, who was imprisoned for attacking his mother. Not his step dad.

No, sorry his dad was abusive. His step dad is an amazing man who has never raised his voice.

Oh that's not so bad then just having a child with a man who was in prison for attacking his own mother. Jesus effing Christ!

Yeah, the OP made a crappy choice,@CaroleSinger , but its not like she can just shove her DS back up her hoo-ha and start again, is it?

I think DSs problems are likely to be rooted in anxiety and some deep-seated rejection by his dad. Interestingly, my exH had virtually no contact with his own dad in from a similar age, and he used to get HIDEOUSLY stressed on holiday and travelling. It might be worth seeing if you can do some anxiety therapy with your son, even just trying to talk things out with him.

Wind your neck in @CaroleSinger I bet you aren't perfect yourself ...are you?