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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think this isn’t a good idea

19 replies

Lean888 · 22/10/2023 16:23

Dd in her 20’s has just been discharged from a long hospital stay of 18 months. A mental health hospital. Now just 7 weeks later they want to admit her again. Aibu to think this is very soon to admit someone again. She’s has bpd and an Ed.

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RandomButtons · 22/10/2023 16:26

Impossible to say without actually knowing her full medical history and current condition.

Randoms on the internet aren’t going to be able to make that call.

I hope she gets the help she needs OP.

Coffeerum · 22/10/2023 16:33

Why would it be “too soon” to re-admit her though? If they think the needs admitted there is obviously a reason.
Why are you not acknowledging that? Do
you disagree with them? How do you feel the 7 weeks have gone?

Merryoldgoat · 22/10/2023 16:35

How could any of us know this?

Dotjones · 22/10/2023 16:43

No it's not too soon if the doctor(s) responsible believe it is the correct thing to do. Presumably she isn't coping as well as they'd hoped and/or is a risk to others. If that's the case it's better put her back in treatment.

Catza · 22/10/2023 16:44

Presumably she was under the crisis team post discharge and they assessed her to be too high risk to manage in the community. The length of time between admissions is irrelevant

Bassetlover · 22/10/2023 16:45

These days it's incredibly difficult to get admitted to an in-patient MH bed. MH teams will move heaven and earth to try to keep a patient in the community. If they feel she needs an in-patient admission I'd be taking this seriously and thinking there's a very good reason.

CyberCritical · 22/10/2023 16:53

What had happened in the intervening 7 weeks to make them think that she needs to be re admitted?

RommyRommyRommm · 22/10/2023 16:54

I know it’s heartbreaking & you probably don’t want her to be admitted again so soon, but it’s better for her to go in sooner rather than later. Talk to the experts, not people on MN who want your daughters full medical history. All the best OP!

CaroleSinger · 22/10/2023 16:55

As a cautionary take, a neighbour was in a similar situation with her daughter and decided against intervention thinking she was coping better with her daughter's behaviour than the hospital would. In the meantime her daughter was driving around the streets trying to get in people's cars and taking pictures through their windows scaring the hell out of them because it was part of her illness. The police were being called about all the erratic behaviour and she had no choice but to be re admitted. Her family didn't think it was a good idea either but she really was very unwell. All I would say is that if the doctors looking after think she needs to be back in care then it probably won't be because they thought she was doing really well and getting better. I'm so sorry you're going through this xx

WeeOrcadian · 22/10/2023 16:56

I say this kindly OP, but unless you're a doctor, or specialised in this area, you can't possibly know that it's a 'bad idea', no matter how upsetting you find it

No hospital will admit someone for shits and giggles - that simply doesn't happen. The situation must be fairly dire if they're wanting to admit her.

Planesplanesplanes · 22/10/2023 16:57

There a few psychiatric beds available. I suspect dr are more likely to act too late rather than too early. Her medical teams are the experienced professionals here. What is happening that makes them think
she needs to be readmitted.

Enterthewolves · 22/10/2023 16:59

What treatment did she have in the 18months? Was she offered a planned programme of DBT or other therapeutic intervention or was it containment? If the latter can they tell you what will be different this time?

towriteyoumustlive · 22/10/2023 17:00

Given the cost of a psychiatric patient and beds difficult to get then they're hardly going to request to re-admit her if it wasn't necessary.

I'd follow the advice of the medical specialist rather than asking strangers online.

Pollyannamex · 22/10/2023 17:01

I think you need to listen to the medical professionals in this case.

Pinkshoppingbag · 22/10/2023 17:28

Are they saying she is a danger to herself or others?

Ffsnotaconference · 22/10/2023 17:30

Why do you think it’s not a good idea?

happylittlesloth · 22/10/2023 17:32

No one can really tell you. Why don't you trust the doctors?

Tinkerbyebye · 22/10/2023 17:32

They wouldn’t recommend re admittance without a good reason. Maybe the meds are not working, maybe they can see she is getting worse/not coping

I don’t see what the issue is, the6 don’t re admit just for the sake of it

Blueuggboots · 22/10/2023 19:01

It's really hard to be admitted. The fact that they want to 7 weeks later suggests she must be quite unwell.

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