Party after sickness??

[Jam177]

There were a couple of cases of D&V at DDs nursery last week, we thought she had managed to avoid it until a huge puke out of the blue yesterday afternoon. It was only the one throw up and DD has been absolutely fine since, no other symptoms at all (seems weird!?)

Today is her best friend's birthday party and she has been SO excited about it for weeks! We would ordinarily isolate for 48hrs after a sickness bug but this instance was so short-lived with no other symptoms, I'm wondering if she's actually ok to still attend the party. Also considering, if it was the nursery bug, all the other party guests are from her class and will have been exposed to the same thing anyway.

Thoughts please...? xx

Ds used to just be sick one time with a bug, we only knew it was a bug when we caught it! Of course it'd be selfish to take her to the party, lots will be along I'm sure to tell you it's fine.

Not me, I agree with you not to send them. My own DC went to school on the same bus as a child who was sent in after throwing up this week. I would be very fucking annoyed if my child now gets sick. It is selfish to risk making a ton of kids sick at a party.

I can't believe you think this is ok.
What an unbelievably selfish silly thing to do.
I don't think you understand how these things work - just because she was "only" sick once doesn't mean she's fine to go.

Ridiculous

Of course it’s not ok.

Your child was sick. You should keep them away from others for 48 hours as it’s really selfish otherwise!

This sort of attitude is why it spreads round nurseries so much

Why not ask the birthday girls parents if they still want your child to attend.
I personally would not be taking here but you seem to think a child's excitement trumps spreading a sickness bug

DO NOT TAKE THEM!! So unfair to inflict a illness on to others particularly those may have already had once already, it’s a 48 hour rule for a reason! It’s people like you that bend the rules and will seek an excuse to favour your own needs, it’s a teachable lesson for your kids too explain it too them and tell them that’s how it works when their is illness and sickness

There's really no need for so much aggression guys! @happylittlesloth I clearly don't understand how these things work, which I why I'm asking. It would be selfish to not consider it and send her along regardless. I'm asking for advice to make the right choice. Jesus fucking Christ!

Where I live, the isolation for preschool after V is 24 hours not 48, so it's not a totally unreasonable question. I would ask the girl's parents, but be very cautious: for my DS at least it often took quite a few hours for the D to appear after V. I wouldn't take a couple of cases in preschool as evidence that they all have been exposed: when they all have been exposed usually half the class is off (literally) in my experience.

I think that creates an awkward situation, so is rude.

Also don’t ask the parents your going to put them on the spot and that’s just awful as you thinking it’s okay to take a possibly contagious child to a party even though you clearly know there is a 48 hour period as you wrote it in your OP

My son had a bug at the beginning of the year where he was sick once every 36-48 hours for a week. Just because she hasn't been sick since doesn't mean she is bug free.

I think you've got the message loud and clear OP, so I'm not going to repeat the advice slready given.

In regard to dealing either your DD's disappointment at missing out, perhaps think lovely, extra special 'post-birthday" playdate activity you could set up with your DD with her friend? Doesn't have to be pricey. You can tall it up yo your DD to elevate the importance of the occasion.

Just a thought.

But you do know how it works you said 48 hours in your original post 🙄 I hate selfish parents usually end up raising selfish children that think the rules don’t apply to them

and is unfair on all the other parents who have not been asked

One of the hardest parts of parenting is saying no when your child really really wants to do something. But this is one of those times.

Crikey she's just asking a question. Chill out!
OP it's prob best to keep them away from the party just in case. She'll be disappointed so perhaps do something special at home with her.

Don’t ask the party parents. This is a decision you’re is struggling with; it’s not fair to get the hosts to struggle with it too. (I know you’d not suggested it OP)

I do agree with the others though. You can’t take her. It’s the start of half term. Don’t be the person who wrecks everyone’s plans. Instead, message the parents to explain, and see if you can arrange a play date soon, then you can use that to help stem DD’s disappointment.

My child was only sick once after contracting the bug from nursery. We thought it wasn't the bug.

Until 24 hours later when I had my head down the toilet, followed shortly by my DH! Definitely don't take her!!

@cassy16 I don't understand the fact that she was sick just once with no other symptoms. Other replies have confirmed that can still just be the normal result of a bug.

I obviously won't be taking her to the party. Thank you to those who chose to reply with kindness.

Do a party at home for you and him. £5 of party decorations from Poundland. Some crisps, fairy cake. Play pass the parcel. Watch a little movie. Arrange a soft play playdate with a few of the party kids.

Don't do that!

You clearly do know how it works but think your child's excitement trumps all

Apologies OP. I had a lot of time off last year having to look after my child when they'd picked up yet another bug and I'm pretty sure lots of it was due to kids having a bug but not being kept off. The nursery were really trying to clamp down on it but selfish parents kept sending them in. Sorry I let my anger at the selfish lot influence my response to you.

Sorry but no your kid can't go