To be sad that my friends don't care enough to wish me well?

[SunnyBunny17]

I've just been discharged from hospital after having a life saving op that was a total success, I'm feeling like I've just done 5 rounds with a boxer but I'm also over the moon, a bit emotional and so, so thankful.

I'm NC with my remaining relatives (stately homes, in a nut shell) but wanted to share my good news with people I thought would be happy to hear it so I posted a status on Facebook, all very upbeat and positive and in no way "woe is me"

Its the first time I've posted anything about my health on there, ever.

I have a small friends list consisting of only those I've known years (and two newer mum friends I've made over the past year) and I haven't heard a peep from three of my oldest friends. We live far apart nowadays but still catch up and they are people I grew up with and have provided support to at various points. I always have a kind word for them when they share any news and always on hand to give advice when asked for some.

They've seen it, no doubt about that. All very active and posting their own benign stuff about the gym and half term.

Would you be a bit sad about this if you were me? I have more important things to think about of course, but it has hurt me.

I'm donning my hard hat but hoping you'll be kind and not snipe at me.

There's no way that you know for sure they have seen it. I have missed important things on Facebook because the platform doesn't know what needs to be shown to who - if it's important then you need to either tag them or announce it separately.

Fwiw, I'm very happy for you!

That does seem odd. But had they been in touch while you were in hospital, and did they already understand why you needed the surgery, and how important it was? If so, they may have felt it had all been discussed, and your Facebook post was for people you were less close to, who didn't already know?

Facebook is crap at showing things
I can find stuff out 2 years late
Do not fall out simply because they haven't seen a Facebook post

Although they might be upset at you if you hadn't kept them on the loop about what was happening to you

Just because they've posted on their own Facebook timeline doesn't mean they've seen your post

Why not make things more personal and DM them?

This

Esp if you don't post a lot anyway

If they were good friends surely they knew about you going in

As in the fact you actually told them via face phone or text

Then if they knew and didn't say anything they are shit friends

I don't think you can rely on FB to convey an important message like that. You just need to send a WhatsApp. Personally I just post an occasional photo of something positive on FB. I agree with everyone else. They may not have even seen it.