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'I feel sick' competitive drama idiots

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dramatix · 20/10/2023 22:03

Can't bear it when posters say 'I feel sick/physically sick' whenever discussing something terrible.

Ditto when characters are sick when receiving bad news in tv dramas. Literally never happens in real life.

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eosmum · 20/10/2023 22:40

Stress vomiter here, another Irish listener who was physically sick hearing reports of an ongoing trial, and reports from the Middle East.

LightSpeeds · 20/10/2023 22:48

CheekyHobson · 20/10/2023 22:19

Well done on having a limited emotional spectrum or never having suffered a traumatic shock, OP. We're all very impressed with your stoicism.

^This

Just because you haven't felt something yourself, you have no idea what the several billion other people living on the planet feel.

TheyreEatingThemInNelsonAndTheBluff · 20/10/2023 22:49

Same applies when someone says they were actually crying with laughter (or howling). The only time I have cried with laughter is when I was with someone who was crying too

But that’s your experience. I’ve cried laughing at TikTok videos. Alone.
I’ve then sent them to my sister, who has the same sense of humour, and she’s crying laughing at them too. People are different.

Nowherenew · 20/10/2023 23:08

Ermm yes it does!

Most people feel sick when they’ve received bad news and many people are physically sick.

My autistic DD used to have awful anxiety and would be sick regularly about things that most of us wouldn’t find traumatic.

Being sick, as well as weeing or pooing ourselves is part of our fight or flight response.
We apparently get rid of anything in our bodies to make ourselves lighter, so we can run faster.

RedHelenB · 20/10/2023 23:09

dramatix · 20/10/2023 22:03

Can't bear it when posters say 'I feel sick/physically sick' whenever discussing something terrible.

Ditto when characters are sick when receiving bad news in tv dramas. Literally never happens in real life.

But it does happen in real life. Yabu

Nowherenew · 20/10/2023 23:11

XenoBitch · 20/10/2023 22:33

It does happen. But when someone said they felt sick after watching some drama with a traumatic scene in it... did they really have to leave the room and vomit?
I think that is hugely different to someone receiving bad news etc.

Same applies when someone says they were actually crying with laughter (or howling). The only time I have cried with laughter is when I was with someone who was crying too.. you set each other off then wonder what you actually found funny to start with.

I cry with laughter almost every time I laugh.
I think some people are more prone to it.

MrsHughesPinny · 20/10/2023 23:14

I definitely cry with laughter more than once a week. Last weekend, DP said something that made me laugh so hard that the tears rolled and I could barely breathe. Not hyperbole, it actually happened. I love laughing till I cry.

MsLavender · 20/10/2023 23:24

So because something doesn't happen to you that means it never happens to anyone? weird.

Mamai90 · 20/10/2023 23:26

It does happen in real life. When I had to tell my DH that his best friend was dead I threw up right after, it was shock presumably.

CharlotteBog · 20/10/2023 23:39

TheyreEatingThemInNelsonAndTheBluff · 20/10/2023 22:49

Same applies when someone says they were actually crying with laughter (or howling). The only time I have cried with laughter is when I was with someone who was crying too

But that’s your experience. I’ve cried laughing at TikTok videos. Alone.
I’ve then sent them to my sister, who has the same sense of humour, and she’s crying laughing at them too. People are different.

I often cry with laughter. It's the best feeling!

usernother · 20/10/2023 23:43

Physically sick as opposed to what kind of sick?

FedUpMumof10YO · 20/10/2023 23:53

Yeah I've thrown up through bad news / stress.

I get what you mean though.

Lou670 · 20/10/2023 23:57

Well I feel a bit of a failure now as when my Mum died I went in to a tonic clonic seizure despite never having had a seizure in my life!

WhateverMate · 20/10/2023 23:57

I think you're far more likely to read about people 'howling, sobbing and in floods of tears' on MN, rather than being physically sick?

Oyen · 21/10/2023 00:05

It's just a figure of speech isn't it.

I don't think people are literally vomiting at mumsnet.

Oyen · 21/10/2023 00:08

Shaking and crying surely @WhateverMate

Flickersy · 21/10/2023 00:08

WhateverMate · 20/10/2023 23:57

I think you're far more likely to read about people 'howling, sobbing and in floods of tears' on MN, rather than being physically sick?

Don't forget the shaking.

snackatack · 21/10/2023 00:13

qmalro · 20/10/2023 22:13

Nausea is my body's go to stress response unfortunately, so yeah it can happen.

Mine too - I can be sick for days sometimes - it is awful x

Aylestone · 21/10/2023 00:25

XenoBitch · 20/10/2023 22:33

It does happen. But when someone said they felt sick after watching some drama with a traumatic scene in it... did they really have to leave the room and vomit?
I think that is hugely different to someone receiving bad news etc.

Same applies when someone says they were actually crying with laughter (or howling). The only time I have cried with laughter is when I was with someone who was crying too.. you set each other off then wonder what you actually found funny to start with.

My cousin vomits at the mere thought of a dead body, human or animal. He can usually eat meat as long as it looks like meat and not the animal. For eg he can eat a tin of tuna or a piece of battered cod, but if he saw an actual whole dead fish at the supermarket he’d throw up, he could eat stew with lamb chunks in but would throw up at seeing a leg of lamb. He’ll also go pale and dizzy at the sight of blood. I saw someone in my school vomit and pass out when we were watching a video where a rugby player broke his ankle. I think they’re quite mild examples so I think there’s definitely people out there who have the same reactions over far worse disasters

adviceneeded1990 · 21/10/2023 00:28

@Remaker agree with this 100%. People who make it about them with massive over reactions tend to be utterly useless. I had a relative like this when my grandparent was dying of cancer (not unexpected, peaceful end, great age). My relative spent my grandparents last evening in the hospice repeatedly leaving room to “be sick,” crying loudly and performatively at quiet, out of context moments and generally attracting as much attention as possible. If having no time for that makes me emotionless or whatever then I’m fine with that 😂

steff13 · 21/10/2023 00:28

It happened to me once, when my husband told me out of the blue that he didn't want to be married to me anymore.

Generally I'm a crier. I cried yesterday reading about a death that happened in Israel.

WhateverMate · 21/10/2023 00:30

Oyen · 21/10/2023 00:08

Shaking and crying surely @WhateverMate

Sobbing
Shaking
Howling
In floods

Often at sad movies.

Yet no-one's ever started a thread complaining someone stood up and screamed "GET THE FUCK OUT OF THIS CINEMA!" 😂😂

Dramatic · 21/10/2023 00:35

I felt physically sick when my daughter told me her step dad abused her as a young child. I wasn't actually sick but close to it, so yes it does happen. Did you think people writing TV dramas just made up that reaction?

Dramatic · 21/10/2023 00:36

WhateverMate · 21/10/2023 00:30

Sobbing
Shaking
Howling
In floods

Often at sad movies.

Yet no-one's ever started a thread complaining someone stood up and screamed "GET THE FUCK OUT OF THIS CINEMA!" 😂😂

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The woman next to me in the cinema watching Elemental was genuinely in floods of tears at the end 😂

Mammyloveswine · 21/10/2023 00:41

dramatix · 20/10/2023 22:03

Can't bear it when posters say 'I feel sick/physically sick' whenever discussing something terrible.

Ditto when characters are sick when receiving bad news in tv dramas. Literally never happens in real life.

I vomited when my mam died very suddenly... after I'd spoken to the paramedics and knew she was dead on the landing. My dad wouldn't let me go sit with her as "she doesn't look like your mam".. (I'll be forever grateful for his protection in this but will always feel guilty she lay alone).