Giving baby chocolate

[everycloud3]

I was at lunch with my friend, her 4 children and my baby who is just 5 months old.

I left some cash and went to the toilet whilst friend sorted bill.

When I came back friend told me that she gave my 5 month old a bit of chocolate sauce from the pudding she'd had. I said "what? why would you do that?" She replied that she did it with all of hers and my daughter spat most of it out and why did I look so shocked.

To make things worse my daughter has a dairy intolerance and we haven't started the dairy ladder yet. When I reminded her of this she said "oh yeah, oh well a bit won't hurt".

The more I've thought about it the more pissed off I am, there is no need for a baby to have chocolate in my eyes anyway, let alone one who hasn't been weaned and one who has an intolerance.

I'm really pissed off and I don't know if I'm being over the top of not?!

My son has a dairy allergy too and this would have pissed me right off ! Would she have given her peanuts knowing she is allergic to them ?

I hope she doesn’t have a reaction but if she does I would be texting said friend and maybe she will think twice next time !

You're not being OTT that would've really upset and infuriated me. That would've brought my eldest out in severe hives at that age.

This would have annoyed me beyond words! Even aside from the dairy intolerance, there was just no need to do it. The baby didn't need it to satisfy hunger, nor was there any nutritional benefit, and if she's not weaned she has no desire for the chocolate. So why give her what is basically a spoon of sugar? The only reason was for your friend's own amusement.

What was the purpose of her doing this? There are countless reasons not to, but I can’t think of one reason why she would do this? I’d be beyond angry with this.

This would have really annoyed me too, especially given how little your baby is! 5 months is tiny!! I'd just be mindful around that friend from now on because she probably means well but clearly doesn't overly respect potential boundaries.
I'd also be really annoyed if someone randomly gave my DD a first taste of a treat and I wasn't there to see her experience it! It's just so rude to do that.

I'd have been rather pissed off at her.

She would no longer be a friend, why would you give anything at all to a baby without the parents requesting it. Especially at that age when many parents follow NHS guidelines to wean from 6 months but with a dairy intolerance would have been furious. It shows she has no boundaries and probably not a great deal of intelligence so I wouldn’t be interested in continuing to see her. I would have been raging as we didn’t give chocolate and sweets until DC started nursery (they got other treats which were plenty).