I have a friend who is really stressful. We’ve been friends for a long time and have had some great times but I don’t know whether it’s sustainable. If my son wants a playdate with her son, she’ll find a way on her and then all of them coming. She’s got two other kids. This ends up being exhausting as I have to entertain and feed them all. The youngest being only two years old. I think she does this as she doesn’t want to drop them off at our house. Lots of time we’ve shared lifts with her but she is never comfortable about it being the other way around. I don’t know what she thinks is going to happen. We don’t want to die anymore than she does. And the most recent one, she said she’ll never be comfortable with her son having a sleepover with anyone. The kids are 10 and at an age where they are keen to have reciprocal sleepovers. She’s not just like that with me. She’s like that with everyone. But I’m finding it all so exhausting. And her level of paranoia, I’m thinking is it worth maintaining the friendship for the sake of the kids who’ve had a lovely friendship for years, but its a hassle for me and I find her permanent distrust offensive.