Heboughtmeadishwasherandacoffeeperculator ·
20/10/2023 12:45
NC for this.
I have two DD’s one 12 and one 17 both at the came college, youngest in Y8 and eldest in 6th Form.
Youngest, never really socially recovered from covid and loved being off school and online learning. Shehas lots of friends in secondary and not any bullying as far I’m aware but she would really rather be at home and some mornings can be a struggle to get her up and in…
unfortunately she has also suffered quite badly over the years with tonsillitis so there has been times when I have been a bit soft and let her stay at home when she could really have gone in. We have also had the dreaded attendance drop letter (94% so not the end of the world) which I felt awfully about
i have got a bit stricter over the last 6 months and we have got into a much better routine, this paired with my changing roles at work and having to be up and out in the morning has meant she has to get on with a bit more, and I tend to be less gentle with the whole “I’m not feeling well” at 6.30am when I’m trying to juggle it all.
We are also rural with the girls school being 40 minutes away (school bus arrangement) and I don’t drive and DH is currently deployed and we live in a different country to family
Today I get a “I don’t feel can I come home well” text and my instant reaction is you will be fine, it’s Friday, the last day for half term you only a have a few hours left, then I get a phone call from the school, DC is saying she doesn’t feel well what would you like to do, I ask the teacher how she looking as trying to figure out if she is really not well, or just wants to be out of school, teachers response is “hard to say” 🙄 I explain my situation and say if she is really not feeling well I’m happy for her to get bus home however due to work I can’t pick up, school say this is not school rules and DC has to leave school with a suitable adult.
Few more messages between myself and DD, I tell her to try and find big sister (who I have also tried to get home off) and we will take from there.
School phone again, I’m just about to go into a meeting, DC is now crying apparently…
Speak to DD again she said she is crying because the year head is being mean to her, told her that she’s not allowed fo see big sister, and won’t make any difference as big sister not allowed to take her home,
This in not why I wanted big sis to get involved, I wanted her to give her a hug, some paracetamol and have eyes on her to see what was up.
I think I just wanted somewhere to vent really as finding this all such a juggle with DH away but wondered if it’s the norm for a child with parent’s permission not to be able to come home, (she can use her bus pass on public bus which is near enough door to door) and it’s a bit mean them denying her seeing her sister for a cuddle and check in (big sis has free periods this afternoon).
Im now at the point that even if I was to bus it home to then bus to get her it would take me longer than her waiting until the end of the school day and getting school bus home.
So she is grudgingly being allowed to sit in an empty classroom on her own and a hug with big sis has been denied and I’m feeling awful.