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I've posted about this before- friendship

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crochetmonkey74 · 20/10/2023 09:37

I have no one to talk to in real life about this- and I feel a bit embarrassed about having a friendship issue at nearly 50!
Context (short) my much loved best friend who I thought was like a sister to me has really cooled since I became happier and not suicidal/ depressed. It's been a long road of recovery for me and really hard but since being happier she just can't cope with it. She's really backed off. I inherited some money as a result of a traumatic double bereavement. I've been able to buy a house (small) with no mortgage. She keeps bringing up that I now 'don't have to think about money anymore and she does' but we only ever go for cheap things like coffees - often even free things like walks. I find it so upsetting - firstly, I would give it all back if it meant I had my family back, secondly, I'm now comfortable but certainly not immensely wealthy and I still need to be aware of money.
I don't really know what I want anyone to say - I just have no one to talk to in real life about it!

OP posts:
toadasoda · 20/10/2023 14:40

OP I feel for you. Its really upsetting to lose a friend, which seems to be what is happening here. Well done to you for turning your life around.

newamsterdam · 20/10/2023 15:16

PinkArt · 20/10/2023 13:39

You're so right. I'm so lucky that my mum died years before her time, because I'm now mortgage free. She was clearly holding me back when she was alive.

Oh ffs, cop on.

Your mother died too young and you got a shit load of money.
My mother died when I was 19 and I got a bill for the fucking funeral and had to get a second job.

We were both unlucky, but one of us got a mortgage free house, and one of us got nothing but debt.

It's not the sodding same. Check your privilege.

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