We are having massive building works - things are really hard. We’ve over run by about 3 months and are living with my mum in the day and sleeping in 1 room at night with our two children.
DH and the builder had a falling out - builders didn’t turn up for one day and DH sent (a perfectly reasonable) message saying we were worried about it getting cold with no finished roof, no running water and no radiators and wanting daily updates.
Builder fired back a very long message telling us we were being unreasonable and said we either leave him alone to finish the job or we part ways.
DH spoke to his dad (who is a builder but never offered to help) and they decided between them that THEY would finish the job. DH has a very stressful full
tome job and I don’t know how he thinks he would be able to do it!
I drove past to see if the builders were there the next day and they were (DH said they wouldn’t be) I then went in and had a conversation with the builder and ironed everything out. Build back on track.
DH is furious! Even though he said the best case scenario would be the builder carrying on he obviously didn’t really mean that even though he assured me that was the case and he was obviously just going to make them leave!
He is now into day 2 of not speaking to me and being very cold and distant. I asked if he wanted to talk about it and he just said ‘no’.
my mum has money tied up in the build too and was so worried and upset at the thought of the builders not finishing.
He really seems to despise me right now and even left the build group chat. I feel like it’s all on me now and it’s horrible. It’s like he wants it to fail to prove me wrong but this is our home. I’m so upset. I know I hurt his pride but I don’t know what to do!