To ask when it will get easier?

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I have a 2-year-old and am pregnant with our second baby. DH and I both work full time and mostly opposite shifts and days off so have very little time together (partly by nature of his job and partly to reduce childcare costs). This means that although we equally share housework/childcare etc we are both either at work or looking after DS alone, without much downtime. It just feels like a constant juggle and we are both exhausted, all the time.

We knew what we were getting ourselves in for and I'm not complaining but I wanted to ask people whose kids are a bit older when did it start to get easier? When did you stop feeling permanently drained? Or AIBU to be feeling like this now?

That sounds really hard. I think I found my children easier to manage from about four. Then when everyone was in school it was easier again in many ways (although a massive juggle with organising wraparound I suppose). It WILL get easier.

Depends on the child. My girl has been a dream since about age 4. From age 6 I'd even call her helpful she's a blessing and I'm so so lucky. My special needs son age 7 is just getting harder and harder.

I hate to say it but the child's sex does correlate with some things. I've worked with kids for years. The boys entertain themselves better generally but create more mess and do t help clear up after themselves as much. Girls can be very chatty and draining but more compliant. I've always wondered if it's nature or nurturing

I have teenagers, so I would argue never
Only joking OP, my memory tells me that age 3 was a turning point.
Best of luck x

it doesn't really get easier, it just changes.

It doesn't, it just gets different.
And you'll prefer some bits to others.