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To think I should matter more then Donald

26 replies

mummygotabooboo · 08/03/2008 18:02

My mother has just announced that she has made her will and everything is being left to the bloody dogs .

Now before you all say its her money she can do as she likes I would like to point out it is not. When my father died he left half the house to me and a sum of money, this was to be kept it trust as he thought I was young and reckless I guess.
My mother has had a very good standard of living, and I always helped out when and where I could, taking her to hospital appointments and shopping, picking her up from bridge club and so on. DH has done all the decorating and gardening she needed doing over the years also.

Then she got a dog, a nasty yappy snappy little thing, but its her baby. She was dreadfully upset when she went on holiday and left Donald (thats its name) with us, as she got back to find us less then pleased with the dog as it had tried to eat our sofa, did its nasty sinful doings on the rug in our child's room and humped DHs leg to death. All she could say was poor poor baby to it .
Now she is all hard done by because we will not dog sit Donald so she can't have a holiday as she won't put the hell hound in kennels.

Then today she informs us that she has been to make a will and everything is to be left to Donald!!!! She seems to forget half the bloody house is mine and I also want my money daddy left me, she keeps stalling on this too. What should I do?

OP posts:
dizzydixies · 08/03/2008 18:05

she's joking right?

Twiglett · 08/03/2008 18:05

in trust till when?

who is the executor of his will? who is the trustee (or guardian) of the trust?

Freckle · 08/03/2008 18:08

If something was left to you, then your mother has no say in what happens to it. Is she the trustee of the trust? What are the terms of the trust?

dizzydixies · 08/03/2008 18:08

what age is the dog

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 08/03/2008 18:09

She can't leave what your dad left for you, to the dog. That is his will so it has to stand.

WanderingTrooley · 08/03/2008 18:09

You need to get yourselves written into Donald's will, so when he snuffs it you get the lot.

Does he have a large family who may contend? Are there step, er, puppies?

Lulumama · 08/03/2008 18:11

if this is for real, then the money in trust for you cannot be given to the dog, seek legal advice ASAP

dippydeedoo · 08/03/2008 18:11

how will donald count his inheritance ?

WanderingTrooley · 08/03/2008 18:12

They'll be a claws in the will covering that, dippy.

Hahahahahahhahah I'll get me coat..

dizzydixies · 08/03/2008 18:13

rofl @ wanderingtrooley

dizzydixies · 08/03/2008 18:14

its a very good point though, when she goes, sorry, who gets custody of 'Donald'? will he have staff to look after him who gets the cash for his expenses?

Miggsie · 08/03/2008 18:14

On her death your father's will takes precedence, then whatever she wants to do with the remainder goes to the DOG?!
Who administers the trust for the dog?
What happens after the dog accidentally goes under a lorry?

I think you would have grounds to contest this one...

However, friends husbands mother talks about her will constantly and tells her 2 children that she is leaving them only some of the estate, or two thirds or whatever, and she uses it as a power thing. They have learned to ignore it... I suspect she has not even made a will, she just does it to be horrible to them.

Don't dignify this silly will by even discussing it with her. Just say "it's your money" and pretend you don't care, that will probably wind her up quite a lot.

Take legal advice but don't let her know that.

WanderingTrooley · 08/03/2008 18:15

You can leave things in your will to animals.

Look here.

Original poster
mummygotabooboo · 08/03/2008 18:21

Mother says I will get nothing it is all for Donald, the only way I will see anything is if I take on Donald, My son Joe is terrified of the mutt.

OP posts:
NAB3wishesfor2008 · 08/03/2008 18:22

Then you will have to let someone else have the dog. You will still get what your dad left you.

peanutbear · 08/03/2008 18:22

what about if the dog dies

cocolepew · 08/03/2008 18:24

Could you not look after Donald so your mum can go on a holiday? Really, you're being very selfish.

(Then he could have a terrible 'accident')

peanutbear · 08/03/2008 18:26

your mother will hopefully out live the dog anyway

Original poster
mummygotabooboo · 08/03/2008 19:12

How long do dogs live?

I could say it just jumped it front of my 4x4

OP posts:
catinthehat · 08/03/2008 19:19

But Joe is the fireman's son, not yours

He's a single dad isn't he?

ItsmeDonald · 08/03/2008 19:30

Got me

Freckle · 08/03/2008 19:31

Take on the dog for the holiday, booking it into kennels for the day after she leaves until the day before she gets back. Sorted.

CountryGirl2007 · 09/03/2008 02:33

She's a bit silly leaving it all to one dog, she'd be better of leaving it to a charity and help potentially hundreds of dogs.

Buda · 09/03/2008 06:49

She can leave HER half of the house and all of HER money to who or what ever she likes. Your half of the house end the money in trust is still yours - she can't do anything with that.

tatt · 09/03/2008 07:03

Love it. Put the dog in kennels when she goes on holiday or keep it in a shed in the garden. Promise to take it on when she dies. With its large inheritance you can buy it a personal trainer