Hi,
I feel so low every day and night. Each evening or through the day, my husband points out what my children are doing wrong. My children are 12 and 14.
If he finds poo stains in the toilet, he leaves them there and shows me and says we need to confront the children about it. But it ends up being me showing them and getting them to clean it.
If they spill something when making a drink and don’t clean it up, he leaves it there sometimes overnight for them to be shown it and asks them to clean it up in the morning.
If he sees empty containers in the bathroom or a soaking wet towel etc, he leaves their empty shampoo or shower gel bottles for them to see and sort out. He shows me the same too.
He leaves their glasses, cups, dirty laundry where it is and tells me what they have done. So I end up raising it with the children. I have recently asked him to raise these things with the children if he finds them, otherwise I always look like the one complaining as they are my children.
His children are lazy and don’t take their glasses through to the kitchen or help out when they pop by now and again and they are adults and he cleans up after them eg takes their glass away and doesn’t leave it there for them next to visit. They are actually both older than 18.
The pettiness is eating me up to a point I want to say don’t clear away your children’s glasses leave them there until they come round next time so they can see what they have done, even if that means a week.
I am not like that though but I feel so angry about this. Is that wrong?